I am bloody annoyed now......

Chrismojam

I could have sworn I'd logged in earlier, and was posting an update to a previous post..........it was supposed to be a quick update.........but it wasn't:p and it took bloody ages to write..............went to post it and I got the message about not being logged in???

And of course can you get back to the post that you had written..............can you !!!!!!! :mad: :mad: :mad:

Anyway .....the 'abridged' version is I am replying to my brother 'by letter'...........for those who read the other post they'll know why.........:o

Chrismojam

checked my 'last visited' time before and it said 10pm? Well I had to log in again before posting my earlier message (posted at 10.36?) so that means I was logged in when I tried to post my first message?

I can't find were I can comment on this on the site....any ideas?

ceebeeby

.... Ummm, here will probably do!!! I think the site's having a bad hair day - but it still looks gorgeous and shiny and sleek, just needs the split ends blow-dried under!!!

piglet6

Well done for dealing with it Chrismojam :T - I've just been back and read the other post in full (sorry, I missed your long reply the other day...:o ) and I am firmly in the "can't believe he asked you by text" camp, I'm afraid!!:eek:

Good luck with writing your letter - I know it won't be an easy one (I'm full of advice on things but, like you, I am a bit of a pushover when it comes to pleasing others - so I don't envy you the job of putting pen to paper!;) ). I hope when your brother gets the letter he realises why you have to say no and accepts it without making a big fuss out of it...

Stay strong!:cool:

Piglet

Diamonds_2

Annoying aint it.. couldn't you have just pressed your back arrow, copied the text and pasted it into a new box when re-logged in?

Chrismojam

although I am slowly coming to the conculsion that I may have not been signed in

because I've just opened up another window whilst I was going to do another reply..............and started a reply in the other window...........which of course I wasn't logged into....:D I thinks its me really....I'm not quite with it today........

Chrismojam

ceebeeby wrote:

.... Ummm, here will probably do!!! I think the site's having a bad hair day - but it still looks gorgeous and shiny and sleek, just needs the split ends blow-dried under!!!

Yep that 's me everyday:D well the split ends is anyway:o

Chrismojam

piglet6 wrote:

Well done for dealing with it Chrismojam :T - I've just been back and read the other post in full ....and I am firmly in the "can't believe he asked you by text" camp, I'm afraid!!:eek:.......Piglet

Well my update which I tried to post before...'in brief':D ...well ok I'll try....

Turns out bro is off work sick at mo........probably depression..(long term problem)..going on conversations with my mum....

He's borrowed money off other bro for sat nav that he 'had to have' for work....more than happy to show this gadget off a couple of months ago....needless to say did not mention he'd borrowed to pay for it.....needless to say has not paid a penny back.....

Other bro tried to sort him out with work on his 'off days'...job was basically sorted out because other bro had put word in for him.......all he had to do was fill in application form and have a quick interview....never 'got round to it'....

Turns out things 'at home' are far from rosey.......I thought getting himself sorted out meant with a job and a house up here for 'family'.......turns out may have meant away from wife.........not getting involved there....

We've got things going on with our lives/jobs/other stuff as well and I'm not willing to take him on as well........not very 'christian' I know but to be quite frank with you I am sick of putting everyone else and their wants and feelings before my own:o

tesuhoha

Dont blame you Chris. Know exactly where youre coming from. Dont know what your brother is like but my brother and his wife were was taking advantage of me for a long time specially before i met OH. When i started going out with OH they turned nasty because they couldnt get their own way any more. You cant carry your brother on your back. It might be mean to say this, but you are just not in a position to do this and when he contacts you again maybe you should quote a list of your problems, turn the tables a bit. Perhaps say that youd like to help him but you havent got the means. Its certainly true what they say about you cant choose your family, and it sounds like hes using your family loyalty to his advantage.

piglet6

Again Chris, at the risk of sounding mean, I still think you're doing the right thing and I wouldn't say its "un-Christian" either...

Although I feel for your brother (I have experience of depression, both personally, and with other family members, and know how bad it can be), its clear that he has a loving family who are concerned about him - both you and your other brother obviously try to help him where you can. However, this doesn't seem to be "working" for him, so my (albeit harsh) opinion is that perhaps you will be helping him more in the long run by showing him he has to face up to things and learn to deal with them for himself, rather than relying on family to bail him out time after time. Encourage him to see his doctor about his depression - there is no shame in getting medication for his depression...it is a valid illness and there are ways to treat it, although the "stigma" of mental illness sadly lives on in people who don't understand it, and prefer to label people.:mad:

I'm glad to hear that you are feeling stronger about fighting your own corner and standing up for yourself:T . You are right, we all have problems in life (even those who appear to have a "perfect" life on the surface often have problems beneath the surface that they keep hidden from others - doesn't mean they don't have them, though...;) ), and if your brother and his wife are having problems between themselves, it is very sad but it is something that they have to deal with themselves (perhaps counselling, or even just talking honestly to each other...?:p ) but it will certainly not help them if your brother runs away to live with you and your family - and it won't be healthy for your family harmony either!:rolleyes: You are definitely right not to get involved there!!

Keep going...and I hope it all works out for you (and your brother and his family, too!).

Piglet

Penny-Pincher!!

Your not alone hun! I did the same yesterday and was a beast of a post and then site when down. Hit the back button and it had cleared or I would have copied and pasted it..LOL

PP
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