Why do people think it's OK

shellsuit

broke_mum_of_three wrote: »

I have never not turned up to a wedding day or evening "do" if I have said I am going, but I never realized that you had to pay for the evening guests. I thought you had your day guests and paid for their meal and just invited whoever you wanted later on, I know some people have a light supper in the evening and thought you would just pay for the sausages rolls etc not for the number of anticipated guests.

Where we have chosen, they are catering for 40 in the day and 70 in the night.

If we invite 70 for the night and 20 don't come, we lose out.

If we invite 100 and 80 want to come, we would have to pay for 10 more people.

Nobody can know for sure until the actual day, at which time it's too late to mess with numbers.

Don't forget, some rooms only hold a certain amount of people too, so you can't just invite everyone you want because there wouoldn't be enough space or enough food if they all decided to come.

It's so stressful just thinking about it now and we're not getting married until next year lol!!

beautyqueen88

im going abroad for my wedding f*ck em!
having a party when i come back with a buffet, then it doesn't realy matter who drops out, the beer will be drunk and the food will be eaten no matter how many turn up.

The whole wedding meal thing baffles me theres no way id pay £60 a head for someone i hardly ever see to have a meal. i dont even pay £60 each when we go out for a meal.
i don't understand the rehersal dinner either who on earth came up with that idea?

maybe im just young and careless i dont know, but theres know way i'd put myself through all that stress, the days about marrying your partner i couldnt care less about having a sit down meal with everyone and there granded.

Mme.Hibou

beautyqueen88 wrote: »

im going abroad for my wedding f*ck em!
having a party when i come back with a buffet, then it doesn't realy matter who drops out, the beer will be drunk and the food will be eaten no matter how many turn up.

The whole wedding meal thing baffles me theres no way id pay £60 a head for someone i hardly ever see to have a meal. i dont even pay £60 each when we go out for a meal.
i don't understand the rehersal dinner either who on earth came up with that idea?

maybe im just young and careless i dont know, but theres know way i'd put myself through all that stress, the days about marrying your partner i couldnt care less about having a sit down meal with everyone and there granded.

Not quite how would have said it, but yeah I pretty much agree.

shellsuit

The only reason why we won't get hitched abroad is because my Dad won't fly, otherwise we would have had it all booked by now lol

Theres no way i can get married without my Dad there.

foxy-roxy

beautyqueen88 wrote: »

im going abroad for my wedding f*ck em!
having a party when i come back with a buffet, then it doesn't realy matter who drops out, the beer will be drunk and the food will be eaten no matter how many turn up.

The whole wedding meal thing baffles me theres no way id pay £60 a head for someone i hardly ever see to have a meal. i dont even pay £60 each when we go out for a meal.
i don't understand the rehersal dinner either who on earth came up with that idea?

maybe im just young and careless i dont know, but theres know way i'd put myself through all that stress, the days about marrying your partner i couldnt care less about having a sit down meal with everyone and there granded.

Esactly what i would do, that or Gretna with a couple of witnesses:D

Partly though because i do get stressed very easily and i am rubbish at organisation. The only way i could have the whole big white wedding thing would be to hire a wedding planner, which am sure would be far to expensive.

talulahbeige_2

shellsuit wrote: »

If we invite 100 and 80 want to come, we would have to pay for 10 more people.

Who says? are they going to count people in / out.

To make sure you have enough chairs for the extra 10 tell them you want more tables or an extra chair on each table so that your guests have options of sitting at other tables (Obviously this wont work if you are having a seating plan but as its for the evening I'm guessing you don't)
Our hotel are more than happy to provide more chairs than numbers

miserly_mum

talulahbeige wrote: »

shellsuit wrote: »

If we invite 100 and 80 want to come, we would have to pay for 10 more people.

Who says? are they going to count people in / out.

To make sure you have enough chairs for the extra 10 tell them you want more tables or an extra chair on each table so that your guests have options of sitting at other tables (Obviously this wont work if you are having a seating plan but as its for the evening I'm guessing you don't)
Our hotel are more than happy to provide more chairs than numbers

I was wondering that aswell. I thought they needed the numbers for the evening do so that they knew how many to cater for? I'm assuming its not a sit down meal?

So if say they cater for 100 and 110 turn up thats just slightly less grub to go round. Shouldn't make that much difference at a buffet unless they really do ration out the cocktail sausages etc to X amount per person?

Or do they really count heads?

I'm only asking as i'm humming and hahhing about having food in the evening.

sexki11en

JoolzS wrote: »

I can only guess that a lot fewer people than you thought actually like you enough to attend your wedding.

Julie

I can only guess with an attitude like yours, yours will be a wedding for 2.....IF you can find someone daft enough to ask you in the first place :rotfl:

As it happens, we had a lovely day yesterday even though we had a few more drop outs.

SK x

woody01

I cannot believe that you have a 'Wedding Practice'.

I certainly wouldn't turn up for something as pretentious as that either.

beautyqueen88 wrote: »

im going abroad for my wedding f*ck em!
having a party when i come back with a buffet, then it doesn't realy matter who drops out, the beer will be drunk and the food will be eaten no matter how many turn up.

The whole wedding meal thing baffles me theres no way id pay £60 a head for someone i hardly ever see to have a meal. i dont even pay £60 each when we go out for a meal.
i don't understand the rehersal dinner either who on earth came up with that idea?

maybe im just young and careless i dont know, but theres know way i'd put myself through all that stress, the days about marrying your partner i couldnt care less about having a sit down meal with everyone and there granded.

Why do i get the feeling from reading your post that a bag of chips and a pint is classed as a refined night out for you?

BargainGalore

I amazed how much money is spent on weddings.

Much rather have a cheapo wedding and no debt or very little these guys had the right idea

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1205563/Couple-avoid-wedding-debts-tying-knot-just-1-000--holding-reception-garage.html