~*@Tired Tues Chat*~18th August 2009

sallyx

Tricky one spud...Have they had anyone come into school to talk about it recently? Its such a hard thing to talk about but its her health too, especially if she is using tampons with TSS!

beanielou

Its really cold tonight.

spud30

beanielou wrote: »

Oh difficult one Spud but you are right.
Wait til you have to have condom conversation with your DS!!!!

He's not even showing any signs of pubes yet, so no need for a while I reckon. And that chat will be his dad's job :rolleyes:

scaredy_cat wrote: »

how old is she Spud?

She's nearly 14 hun, been having visits for well over a year. From day one I've explained how important it is to change regularly

sallyx wrote: »

Tricky one spud...Have they had anyone come into school to talk about it recently? Its such a hard thing to talk about but its her health too, especially if she is using tampons with TSS!

They're way beyond that from what she's told me about the PSHE lessons they have :eek:

She isnt using tampons yet, but has asked about them.

Makes me think I should've just sat back and either let her have a really embarrassing accident someday, or get some sort of infection

skint_spice

why have I already had a condom conversation with DS when he's younger than your's Spud? it's not fair!!!!

I told him it was something men use when they want to have sex but don't want to get the lady pregnant, he thought for a moment and asked "is it a fake penis then mum?"....

sallyx

You have done the right thing hun. She will at some point talk about it or get into some kind of routine. I remember not having great hygene at that age, I think its down to having to use school toilets and timing it in breaks, lunch and there not being enough time. Its probably habit she's got into, but one she needs to get out of.

How about if she is interested in using tampons you get her some info on TSS and then she might realise she will have to change more frequently or it could kill her essentially. (very unlikely but risk is still there IKSWIM)

Gemmzie

You did the right thing Spud, if she's not maintaining good hygiene with pads then tampons could be really dangerous. Have many of her friends got theirs yet? The novelty of being grown up has probably worn off now and it's starting to become a chore - like shaving your legs - so she is trying to ignore it in the same way teenagers don't clean their rooms. She'll get used to it.

Ames

Oh Spud, I remember a similar conversation with my mum (although it was more about having baths, I had a 'thing' about having a bath at that time of month). Maybe talk to her at a different time of month, when she might take it more rationally? And come from the angle of what her friends'll think - that's probably more important to her than anything to do with infections. And point out that it's 'nicer' (less messy) to change earlier and more often.

Totally not on of OH though, especially when he doesn't know all the facts, since he wasn't around. Maybe he's just not comfortable with his little girl needing those kinds of talks? If so then he should just leave it to you and not interfere at all though.

LQ, I haven't been to Whitby in ages, I really love it up there too. It was on my list of places to visit this summer.

Lenza_Quidditch

beanielou wrote: »

Oh difficult one Spud but you are right.
Wait til you have to have condom conversation with your DS!!!!

:rotfl:Mine started "Mu-u-m we know!"

Spud - Are there any good websites - have no idea about teen girl sites for ideas about how to go about it
http://kidshealth.org/teen/sexual_health/girls/menstruation.html

Is this month a one-off or does it happen every time? I remember my mum had to remind me once or twice at the beginning - summer holidays as well...

spud30

skint_spice wrote: »

why have I already had a condom conversation with DS when he's younger than your's Spud? it's not fair!!!!

I told him it was something men use when they want to have sex but don't want to get the lady pregnant, he thought for a moment and asked "is it a fake penis then mum?"....

I'd had 'the chat' with DD by that age, but DS seems to be way behind her in the hormone stakes.

sallyx wrote: »

You have done the right thing hun. She will at some point talk about it or get into some kind of routine. I remember not having great hygene at that age, I think its down to having to use school toilets and timing it in breaks, lunch and there not being enough time. Its probably habit she's got into, but one she needs to get out of.

How about if she is interested in using tampons you get her some info on TSS and then she might realise she will have to change more frequently or it could kill her essentially. (very unlikely but risk is still there IKSWIM)

I understand the school toilet issue, we've talked about that before but I've always asked her to make sure it's the first thing she does when she gets home. She's been home all day, and not done it once.

Cor blimey I feel really now

Ames

Skint, that's great... obviously he hasn't realised that fake penises mean no need for men at all!

Gemmzie, you mean shaving your legs is something you're supposed to do regularly, not just when you're wearing a skirt?!