CSA didn't help me but are now helping him

lb0801

I first claimed to the CSA in 1999 my daughter was 1 and for ten years they have done nothing to help me. I ave them information on jobs he was doing on the sly and everything. They kept threatening the baliffs but never followed it through. Following a brainwashing from her father my daughter has now been turned against me and moved in with her father 6 motnsh ago. Since then I have been cut out of her life, along with my husband who has brought her up since she was 1 and my son who is 6. My ex has destroyed this family and is contonuing to destroy it. After not paying CSA for 10 yeasr he is now claiming for CSA off myself and because I am an honest person who has worked all my life they are now screwing me for money that I cannot afford to give. I explained that it would take me into the red and I have another child to think about but they have said I can do nothing and have to pay. I just don't know what to do and think it is disgusting that my ex got away with it. Myself and my husband have financially supported my daughter for the past ten years and I am still expected to do that now. If my ex had paid over the last ten years , then it would not bother me but I do not think it is fair. I just don't know what to do, I have an appointment with a solicitor and have written to my MP. Can anyone advise me of anything else I can do?

Soubrette

Although I would be very angry and disillusioned in your position, I would still pay any child support due.

Assuming the facts to be as you have presented them - you are the better parent and eventually your daughter will see this, but not if you play the same silly games as her father.

I would pay what was assessed and concentrate on the most important thing which, for me, would be rebuilding the relationship with my daughter - if her father is as bad as you say, then she needs to feel she can come home at any time with no recriminations.

Sou