CSA TRIBUNAL HELP !!!directions...............

kaya

wow, if he has all that money and refuses to pay a penny what on earth did you do to make him behave that way?

Blonde_Bint

Kaya, believe me when I say, sometimes a PWC or an NRP who just wants to pay their bit and get on with their life can end up with a person who behaves like the guy in question in this thread.

When I met my DH I didnt really beleive the things he and his family said about our PWC after dealing with her for 10 yrs I would believe anything now. Some people do these things because they want to hurt others and they can for no other reason than to make trouble. Until I met our PWC I had never met a person who behaved like that. I was a wide eyed little innocent then I met our PWC:eek: she is that scary:D

To the OP you have something all his money will never buy him as long as he lives, common decency and buckets of humanity running through you, in all of this try not to let him bring you down to his level, cos I dont want to frighten you but it gets a lot lot worse before it gets better. For warned is for armed:)

Blob

Blond Bint, you should get togeather with my partner and have a good gossip, she has said that if she knew what my ex would get up to as well as the CSA, she would never have set up home with me. She has also warned a few other women about what was coming when they were thinking of seting up home with a bloke that had children and the CSA had got their hooks into him.

Can you all be wrong in what you say, in that the CSA tries to destroy relationships and take money from people that had nothing to do with the kids in the first place or anything to do with the breakdown of the relationship that made the kids!

The very simple fact is that it is used as a weapon to get back at former partners, and todate is responsible for the death of at least 62 people as found by Corners Courts, before anyone jumps on me! As for the number of people that it has driven out of the Counrty or to give up work, go selfemployed to avoid them or go on to the 'Black Economy', who knows! The number of second families that they have distroyed is also something I hate to think about!

Blonde_Bint

Yeah, because of my situation I totally get what you are saying. Probably some of the things that have happened to me and my family are things you and your family have experianced. I'll be honest it doesnt make for a pleasant family life. but ...

The way i'm trying to look at it is that the kids will grow up and move out of home the point at which DH and I can dis-entangle ourselves from her life is hoving into view. Like your wife if i'd known then what I know now maybe I would have never married him. Anyway thats neither here nor there now. But I consider that I've learned a big lesson on behalf of our daughter and if she turns up with a man who has a small child (especially under 5) I will give her all the grisly details in glorious technicolour.

Right now today i'd say that if DD comes home with a man and a child in tow if DD couldnt be persuaded to dump him i'd get DH to get rid of him verbally or physically whichever one does the job. I dont want her to live the life I did.

I feel like I didnt have a husband who was married to me really he was never completely mine. I'm not possessive or anything lol. does anyone know what I mean by that statement? that he was mine 90 percent of the time. Perhaps if you are an NRPP you have had a bit of that feeling. where you understand that he has got someone else in his life but that sometimes you arent all that important to him. Hmmm, I know what I mean but I dont think i'm explaining it very well:D

Blonde_Bint

How long have you got left Blob?

We have got 6 years left, not that i'm counting the days or anything:rotfl:

lol I think what used to get to me most was not being able to do the things that most people take for granted and do easily and happily, like booking a family holiday, day trips out for the kids, birthday parties and christmases most of them wrecked by her in some way.

Who knew that being credit crunched would be our reprieve:eek: should I laugh or shout she told DS she wont take us to court and get the police on to us for a while because we havent got anything she can take now, same time he mentioned me getting a job and her claiming it, lol. Its a shame for the lad he has to live in it. Not for much longer now. It seems like it all goes over him and he doesnt take any of her sh*t in but I bet that isnt the case, simply that he's learnt to live with it.