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What should i do??
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He really does sound mature ... NOT!
Since when does a parent conclude his or her bit? Good on you for bringing up your daughter to turn out to be the girl she is. Only you can take that credit. However, you wouldn't be doing yourself credit by letting him get off from his responsibilities.
It may be that he is chancing his luck with you, especially as he is self employed, and the SE are notoriously hard to cough up if they don't want to. Having said that, you also have a responsibility to your daughter to make sure you do your best in getting maintenence for her.:wave:0 -
He seems to be of a mindset where he thinks your daughter is capable of supporting herself and studying at the same time - some people do genuinely believe 16 year olds can walk into jobs easily.
Self-employment and the csa are a ultra long wait - goodness they struggle with employed people.
Firstly you both need to educate him that college will give DD better prospects. Secondly you should look at how the money is paid - perhaps he will be more willing to pay you an amount towards the household expenses of DD, and either paying the rest into DD's account for clothes, books etc, or into a joint account with you (if you both think DD is not responsible enough to manage).0 -
I think I will send the e mail- My proposals to him is that he pays my DD £200 a month direct to her account and i change direct debits for mobile and gym membership to him and he goes halves on holidays with me. I think that is fair. The only thing that worries me is that he is notorious for not shelling out money unless he REALLY has to, but yet my DD told me last night that he has told her he is going to buy his girlfriend a new £600 handbag!!! I am worried that my DD will have to "remind" him every month about the money and i know he will start to resent her after a while... ho hum0
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i would just ask for the cash to be paid into your account thay way no pressure on your dd, and you can make sure the money is spent where you want it to0
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