Humanist Ceremony

tartantotty

kelda_shelton wrote: »

And its soo not 'fairy ring' like - my sister keeps making 'fairy ring' digs and its really pi55ing me off, but I know its going to be lovely so I'm just ignoring her!!

I have just spoken to my H2B about it, and he is adament that he doesnt want a Humanist ceremony because it is "all weird, and freaky"!!. :rolleyes: I got a lovely email from a celebrant with examples of ceremonies and vows etc, which I think are perfect, but he won't even look at them! :mad: I can sense I will have to use the 'drip effect' on this, to make him see sense, you know, dropping a wee bit of info into conversation, leaving the literature lying about .......:rotfl:

tartantotty

chaosweddings wrote: »

Hi,
are you getting married in scotland? where a humanist ceremony is classed as a legal marriage, if not a humanist ceremony is not a legal marriage in the uk, you can still have the humanist ceremony but you must also have a register/church ceremony for the legal bit.
hth

chaos

Yes we are in Scotland so would be legal!

Violetta_2

tartantotty wrote: »

I have just spoken to my H2B about it, and he is adament that he doesnt want a Humanist ceremony because it is "all weird, and freaky"!!. :rolleyes: I got a lovely email from a celebrant with examples of ceremonies and vows etc, which I think are perfect, but he won't even look at them! :mad: I can sense I will have to use the 'drip effect' on this, to make him see sense, you know, dropping a wee bit of info into conversation, leaving the literature lying about .......:rotfl:

Aw thats a shame about your H2B, not sure how to approach it, but I don't think it's at all wierd & freaky, can understand why he may think that, maybe ask the celebrant re this. It can be as formal as you both want it but more tailored to what you both want.
The reason we went for it was I wanted a special day somewhere nice but would never marry in a church as I don't believe. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with a registry office either we just wanted something a bit more personal than they have been in my experience.
Our celebrant asked us the 4 questions that seems to be what a lot of them do
How you met?
Why you want to get married?
What marriage means to you?
What your hopes for the future are?
We emailed him our answsers, he drafted a ceremony based around that & has been happy to change things to whatever we wanted. So not too hippy dippy:rotfl:

tartantotty

Violetta wrote: »

Aw thats a shame about your H2B, not sure how to approach it, but I don't think it's at all wierd & freaky, can understand why he may think that, maybe ask the celebrant re this. It can be as formal as you both want it but more tailored to what you both want.
The reason we went for it was I wanted a special day somewhere nice but would never marry in a church as I don't believe. Don't get me wrong there is nothing wrong with a registry office either we just wanted something a bit more personal than they have been in my experience.
Our celebrant asked us the 4 questions that seems to be what a lot of them do
How you met?
Why you want to get married?
What marriage means to you?
What your hopes for the future are?
We emailed him our answsers, he drafted a ceremony based around that & has been happy to change things to whatever we wanted. So not too hippy dippy:rotfl:

That sounds amazing!! That is exactly what I would like, so I just need to persuade him that its what he wants too!! That's the basis for a good marriage anyway isnt it - getting the man to do what you want!;) :A

i think I just need to stay off the subject for a few days then casually bring it up again. I think what has happened is that he has obviously spoken to someone (I suspect the SIL2B!) who has given him some mis-information, and he now has a slightly skewed view of a Humanist Ceremony. I will sort it though!:think:

kelda_shelton

tartantotty wrote: »

That sounds amazing!! That is exactly what I would like, so I just need to persuade him that its what he wants too!! That's the basis for a good marriage anyway isnt it - getting the man to do what you want!;) :A

i think I just need to stay off the subject for a few days then casually bring it up again. I think what has happened is that he has obviously spoken to someone (I suspect the SIL2B!) who has given him some mis-information, and he now has a slightly skewed view of a Humanist Ceremony. I will sort it though!:think:

i think if my partner hadn't been to my friends wedding and seen how non fairyring/hippy dippy it was and how personal it was to them as a couple, he may have had thoughts that this was what the wedding might be like.. but since hee had been to one he knew it was a lovely ceremony and was happy enought to go ahead with it.

Assuming he doesnt want a religious one, so then his options are civil or humanist - what does he not like about civil ones? Show him how thats not in a humanist one!!

do you know anyone who may have one that you could drag him alomng to listen to? Or youtube?!?

hunnycat

kelda_shelton wrote: »

We're having a humanist ceremony. And yes, its a £250 fee, plus £30 to join the humanist society (Like Ms Chasser, our celebrant explained the more people that join the more wedding licences they get the following year and as its becoming more an more popular they require all couples to join, so hunnycat I'd double check about the joining fee if I were you, you'd hate that to mbe a last minute hitch)

We also have the £65 normal registration fees plus 50p per mile travelling costs for the celbrant (as suggested on the humanist website) which is £18. All this ended up about £50 cheaper than having the registrar for a civil ceremony in the hotel.

We decided on humanist ceremony after my best friend had one last year and it was beautiful and so personal. We're not humanist and not religious but I often think civil ceremonies can be overtly legal and formal so this was a nice match for us.

And its soo not 'fairy ring' like - my sister keeps making 'fairy ring' digs and its really pi55ing me off, but I know its going to be lovely so I'm just ignoring her!!

I emailed my celebrant after reading this tonight for clarification of the fees and its £275 (they go up in price in January!) but i dont need to join the society so its just a flat £275. I have already paid a deposit and signed the contract so all is good:)

melancholly

been to one and it was lovely - although i imagine a lot of that is down to the individual doing the service!

kelda_shelton

hunnycat wrote: »

I emailed my celebrant after reading this tonight for clarification of the fees and its £275 (they go up in price in January!) but i dont need to join the society so its just a flat £275. I have already paid a deposit and signed the contract so all is good:)

odd! But lucky you! Saves you £30! I get married on 28 Dec so I must just miss the price rise...

hunnycat

kelda_shelton wrote: »

odd! But lucky you! Saves you £30! I get married on 28 Dec so I must just miss the price rise...

I think that the other celebrants are making people join when they dont really have too. On the site it does not say you need to join and if it is the case it should be incorporated into the fees. i wouldnt mind having to pay it anyway as the Mil2b is paying for the celebrant:rotfl:

shelovestobuystuff

kelda_shelton wrote: »

odd! But lucky you! Saves you £30! I get married on 28 Dec so I must just miss the price rise...

I still have to get our membership sorted out too as our wedding is November,forgot to add that £30 to the budget.