should paternity tests be given at birth???

stokefan

seven-day-weekend wrote: »

No sorry, I don't agree with you at all, most of us are not in Jeremy Kyle-type relationships. Most couples never doubt the child's parentage because there is no need to.

ok then, how many fathers do you recon have bought up a child thinking its theirs, and either never fond out it isnt or found out in later life.

i have a beautiful DD, and i dont doubt shes mine, but i have so much sympathy for the fathers and children who find out a long way down the line that it isnt so.

not just the emotional problems it will/has caused to people but the financial implications too.

shell_542

Having had this kind of thing happen in my life recently ( I was NOT the woman who decided to sleep around and not know who the father of my child was) and speaking to people in similar situations for support ... it is common and it is most certainly not always people in short term, unstable relationships. Many were couples who had been married for years.

I don't agree with the DNA database that would be created due to this, but maybe if DNA swabs were taken at birth, it would deter many women AND men from sleeping around and having unprotected sex if they know they will not get away with it!

cosmic-dust

stokefan wrote: »

after reading all these disaster stories about mothers who tell blokes that they are the dad when they aint, and also blokes that go through years of thinking they are the dad to find out a 16 that they aint, i think it would be a good idea for every baby and potential daddy to have a swab taken and paternity test done.

i think its beneficial to the baby and father in later life

discuss

Since you seem to have missed the same question on the same subject on these exact boards, you might be interested in this http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1859515

Maybe the board guide will manage to merge the two threads.

stokefan

cosmic-dust wrote: »

Since you seem to have missed the same question on the same subject on these exact boards, you might be interested in this http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1859515

Maybe the board guide will manage to merge the two threads.

yes i had missed that thread, thanks.

seven-day-weekend

stokefan wrote: »

ok then, how many fathers do you recon have bought up a child thinking its theirs, and either never fond out it isnt or found out in later life.
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I personally don't know, or have ever known, anyone in this position.

shell_542

That doesn't mean there are none ... some probably don't know and many others choose not to make it public knowledge. I have spoken to a number of people in that situation.

Gorgeous_George

cosmic-dust wrote: »

Since you seem to have missed the same question on the same subject on these exact boards, you might be interested in this http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.html?t=1859515

Maybe the board guide will manage to merge the two threads.

Yes, my thread was moved despite it clearly being relevant to Child Support and to Money Saving.

It is hard to believe that some mothers lie about parentage but it happens.

It is because of the fragility of the subject that I believe it should be mandatory. Mum and dad could then agree that it was just a formality and if it went well, life would go on. It would remove all doubt and it would be a good thing for society. Maybe the less reputable ladies of this world (like a mate whose wife had two kids to his BROTHER but who thinks they are his) would be more careful.

GG