OH doesn't like veg...

maman

boredjellybean wrote: »

The only other things I can think of (I used to do this with my OH) would be to make a nice cheap pasta bake type thing & give him some ham,bacon,shredded chicken or tuna to mix in with his

BB

I'm sure you didn't mean it this way BB but when I read your post it reminded me of my grandmother. In the frugal times post-war she used to serve up meat to the men and have a bit of bread/gravy/vegetables herself. Her thinking was that they worked hard, earned it, needed it etc. Unless OP was a vegetarian I couldn't go along with that sort of special treatment of OH. It's his budget too and he should help to make the money stretch.

Sorry, don't mean to preach.

Pssst

skintchick wrote: »

I agree with those who say to talk to him about it and stop pandering to him!

My OH was fussy when we married. He claimed he 'didn;t like cheese, butter or cream', that he wouldn;t eat creamy sauces, that he hated sauces full stop, that mash was vile, he'd only eat boiled potatoes, that he wanted meat and veg every night, that pasta wasn;t food, that meat needed to be chicken, that he'd only eat chicken breasts not dark meat, it went on and on.

I told him that firstly, if I was to be doing all the cooking he'd eat what he was given or go hungry, that I would respect any real food dislikes but he had to try everything and be honest about whether he liked it or not, so I could see what he would and wouldn;t eat, and that he had to realise we couldn;t afford for him to be so fussy as I'd be spending more than our £50 budget a week.

I took him with me to Tesco and he saw how expensive even cheap meat is.

And I set about trying him on all sorts of stuff - he now eats mash made with milk not butter, loads of sauces, from tomato-based ones to creamy ones I make from a roux with stock, although he has eaten ones made with cream, he eats cheese as long as it's not melted, he eats dark chicken meat in stir fries, etc., he eats pasta dishes and one of them is even a favourite!

basically, I taught him not to be so fussy because I refused to pander to it. And I also pointed out I had no intention of having fussy children so he needed to try things and get ready to set a good example when they came along, which is now imminent.

You don;t say how long you've been with your OH, but it's time for a talk and some action. I don;t believe people who say they don't like veg - it is fussiness plain and simple. There are loads of different veg out there and he can't possibly dislike all of them.

I don;t like peas very much, or carrots, but I eat them in casseroles and if I'm served them I will eat them however they are prepared, because it's a preference, not a real hatred.

I do blame OH's mother as she always pandered to his whims on food, but now I've taught him better Oh yes, and he was 39 when we got together and 41 when we married, so you CAN teach an old dog new tricks! :rotfl:

Well done DC. A stern if not cruel woman with a colander...:T

lynzpower

Completely agree with you Skintchick :TT

When I met OH i couldnt believe the things he claimed that he didnt like. Mushrooms peppers, courgettes, aubergines, onions of all kinds, mange tout, sugar snaps, green beans etc etc etc! he also used to smother everything in ketchup. I told himI would not tolerate that!

Now he tries anything ( 4 years on) Last week, I bought radishes which I think id eaten before, but never bought, and OH had never tried. He tried them immediately, said they were a bit boring- I agree, but we tried. I refuse to accpet he wont like aubergines so I tried them chinese style in a resturaunt, which he loved and weve tried to make them ourselves at home. Last week, he tried blueberries for the first time and made them into American pancakes, and they were gorgeous. He is so far away from the freaky eater that I met But then I guess thats because I wont collude with that! it feels like im talkign about a different person- its so hard to remember what he was like. Someone on here was bemoaning that the husband put ketchup on eerything a few weeks ago,. I meantioned it to him, it was like apenny dropping, he was so embarrassed that he was like that. . He stopped eating ketchup daily after about 5 months of us going out, and is constantly trying new things now.

I believe people only get away with this sort of controlling behaviour is because they lack confidence in "trying". that they tried things with thier parents and the parent never persevered, jsut shrugged and said "OK"

whatatwit

OP, I think I've got the missing bit from your husband.
Mr Twit will eat any veg, but isn't keen on potatoes.....he will eat roasties :rolleyes: he manages a token lump or 2 of boiled and about 2 new potatoes. Mash is food of the devil and will not be tolerated.

It can make cooking difficult, because things such as shepherd's pie/fish pie are off the menu.
He blames his mum for filling them up with spuds when they were growing lads.

You have my sympathies.

lynzpower

Potatoes are empty carbs, theres no surprise he doesnt like them! I dont either! Once peeled they really have quite negligible vallue, although good as a temporaryn filler, eating potatoes can make you hungrier in thelong run, like any white carbs.

I avoid them too, but I cant resist a steaming portion of chips or a few crunchy roasties

Pssst

A lot of this carp stems from childhood. Kids fuss like this to get attention. Inevitably mummy gives attention so it becomes learned behaviour which they carry over to their adult life.

Psst (aka The Sigmund Freud of Manchester)

Mrs._Irwin

He does eat a bit more stuff than he used to, but we've been together ten years, and he is the stubbornest person I've ever met, so I'll never be able to nag him into eating veg. :rolleyes:
I'll try reasoning with him though, DS is one now and needs to see Daddy eating healthily and setting a good example.

tinkerbellsmum_2

i don't like veg either how about spag bolo using home brand mince (he won't no the differnce) and jar bolo sauce i like ragu
chicken pasta (i buy frozen chicken its cheaper) and cook it add to cooked pasta with a tin of chicken soup and mushrooms if he will eat them
toad in the hole
gaint yorkshires with beans and saus in

MrsE_2

skintchick wrote: »

I told him that firstly, if I was to be doing all the cooking he'd eat what he was given or go hungry, that I would respect any real food dislikes but he had to try everything and be honest about whether he liked it or not, so I could see what he would and wouldn;t eat,

I say "its not a restaurant you know";)

To be fair, my DH will eat anything:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes: (well almost, fussy about meat has to be lean & tender, but anything else).

DD is a tad fussier (same with the meat too) but will eat almost anything.

We all love veg, salad & fruit.

Pippad

I've been thinking and I shouldn't just say I blame my OH's Mum as his Dad never gave him veggies either! He use to have eight or nine meals that he would cook on five or six nights of the week (the other one or two nights DH had to fend for himself, but then he was late teens early 20's) and only one of them involved veggies if I remember and DH would always opt for beans instead of the peas.

I remember going for a meal and my FIL to be was surprised I choose peas instead of beans and I was surprised when my FIL married a vegetarian and his meal plans changed quite dramatically! She makes a GREAT mushroom curry... reminds me must ask if I can have the recipe!