Is CSA/CMEC better than nothing?

catenorfolk

CMAC wrote: »

Why dont you send him the web address with a simple (what do you think) and try it the worst thing he can do is say no the best thing is you communicating

I will be honest, thats the only one i havent tried. I have tried solicitors, mediation, sitting down together. Well as a working mum with kids to support and look after, I am now happy for the CSA to take him to court!!!!! Serves him right for virtually not giving anything all this time. case is going to court next week for a liability order, then a charge on his properties (I hope) then am gonna go for properties to be sold!!! He hates me now, cor blimey just wait til then!!!:D:D

Blonde_Bint

Lol:rotfl: even binty's no sympathy, when the bloke has been given every chance, its his own fault. In the end even the most patient virtuous person gets to the end of the road.

lol if your so bad for him to deal with then he's better off dealing with the CSA .... not lol. what a waste of his time and effort hating you. so he has nothing else better to do then obviously otherwise he would be doing it:D

Blonde_Bint

Zara33 wrote: »

It is because from the little that I read it sounded very good, however regarding my NRP there was aline that crossed and I very much doubt that there will be any going back from it.

If you dont try Zara you'll never know.

NEVER SAY NEVER. worst case scenario he blows you out as you expected.

I'd try it if I had a mind to. best case scenario it gets you somewhere. which would be an unexpected pleasant surprise. Go on Zara be a devil. give it a try.

How's contact going? it was at email stage last time you gave update.

Although i'm an adult so its a different kettle of fish so to speak but my father and I live a long way from each other I havent seen him probably for about 2 yrs but we contact each other regularly by email. Tell each other stuff mundane and funny and in this way we still feel part of each others life it works for us:D

Zara33

Blonde_Bint wrote: »

If you dont try Zara you'll never know.

NEVER SAY NEVER. worst case scenario he blows you out as you expected.

I'd try it if I had a mind to. best case scenario it gets you somewhere. which would be an unexpected pleasant surprise. Go on Zara be a devil. give it a try.

How's contact going? it was at email stage last time you gave update.

Although i'm an adult so its a different kettle of fish so to speak but my father and I live a long way from each other I havent seen him probably for about 2 yrs but we contact each other regularly by email. Tell each other stuff mundane and funny and in this way we still feel part of each others life it works for us:D

Saying NEVER!

He sent email to son telling him to f*ck off, he only has one "good" son :rolleyes: no idea what that means since he doesn't know my son! The only thing that i can think of is that one chi;ld has autism the other doesn't .
Lots of emails to myself blah, blah this blah blah that and the final one was that i should use his child support money to buy flowers for my dead sister. Yeah that low life is out of our lives forever now.

ETA: he can't be aware yet that I don't get child support from him :rolleyes:

Blonde_Bint

Zara33 wrote: »

Saying NEVER!

He sent email to son telling him to f*ck off grrrr whaaaat, he only has one "good" son :rolleyes: no idea what that means yeah what a strange thing to say. since he doesn't know my son! The only thing that i can think of is that one chi;ld has autism the other doesn't . yeah me an all
Lots of emails to myself blah, blah this blah blah that and the final one was that i should use his child support money to buy flowers for my dead sister:mad: right he's passed my right tw*t button and now he's just hit my f*cker button. Yeah that low life is out of our lives forever now. in your case keep it that way. this is one f*cker that is going to get what he deserves, dont get me wrong I dont believe in fatey ghosts or stuff out there but I do believe in "what goes around comes around" he'll be sorry one day he just doesnt know it yet.

ETA: he can't be aware yet that I don't get child support from him :rolleyes:

he gives you child support but it doesnt get to you. cr*p :eek:

Grrrrrrrr:mad:

Right then, if you've given up with him, then I have too. Obviously you know more than I do but the signs to start with were there at least. sending an email like that wasnt needed.

you dont need him anyway, you've got us.

Blue_Horizon

LizzieS wrote: »

I think you misunderstood my post. Under the current systems a nrp can lose all equity in the home and have to pay full csa too - my suggestion was to add some balance to that lost equity by adjusting csa payments.

Ah ... yes I did misunderstand. It that case it sounds like a good thing to me as our assets were split 70:30 in my ex's favour which allowed her to keep the home. She tried everything to get more both thru the CSA and the divorce process, including cutting her hours back and faking illness. As soon as the divorce was settled she went back full time and recovered to full health.

kelloggs36

Maybe she was suffering from stress related illness caused or exaserbated by the divorce.

Blue_Horizon

Kelloggs - No she didn't claim that, otherwise it might have been believable. She said she suffered from RSI caused by her job.