How will this affect my family?

Caroline73_2

I hope I explain this properly...

I have a son from my first marriage and have a verbal agreement with my ex (nrp) where he pays a monthly amount into my bank account. Our split was amicable and ex sees our son every other weekend.

Since we split he has had a baby with another woman (in 2007). He has recently spilt with her to be with someone else. It's not a good situation. He isn't paying maintainence at the moment to her as she won't let him see the baby so she is taking him to the CSA.

If this gets investigated by the CSA will they automatically look into my/ my son's case or will it just be left as everyone is happy? Thanks in advance.

Blob

I think you can say good by to your agreemet, as when the CSA get their teeth into your ex and want their pound and a half of flesh all the children will have to be taken into account.

Donedoingdebt

Unfortunately, Blob is correct & the CSA will become involved.
Once they're involved, it's better for you & your Son that he is included in the maintenance calculation otherwise his other ex will receive the full 15% of his salary that he will have to pay.
If your Son is included, then your ex will have to pay out 20% of his salary & it will be divided equally between the 2 of you, ie: 10% each, minus a one seventh allowance off for each overnight stay per week.

Lil2002

Actually, the CSA WONT get involved in this case until someone makes an application for it, you or your ex. Your agreement with your ex wont be taken in to account when calculating his new case, so it's to his benefit (only his) to get you to go through the CSA.

Donedoingdebt

Lil2002 wrote: »

Actually, the CSA WONT get involved in this case until someone makes an application for it, you or your ex. Your agreement with your ex wont be taken in to account when calculating his new case, so it's to his benefit (only his) to get you to go through the CSA.

The OP stated that the other ex is "taking him to the CSA" so they will become involved with him. Therefore, she will receive the full 15% of his salary which will leave him with less to pay the OP. In that case it would be in both the PWC & NRP's interest to include the OP's Son in the calculation.
I take your point about the CSA not automatically becoming involved with the OP & having to actually apply for it. I've just re-read my post & didn't make that clear.

Caroline73_2

Thanks people - I knew I wouldn't explain it properly!

We currently work to CSA guidelines anyway - DS got 15% and this reduced to 10% when the other child was born (I assumed he was paying but I realise it isn't any of my business).

I am just worried now that CSA will take money from him to give my son and, due the apparent incompetence of the CSA I am always hearing about, it won't get into my bank account.

It's just very frustrating when we have behaved like mature grown ups for seven years and now it's all going to get messed about!

Blob

It sounds to me like the CSA is being used as a weapon to get at your ex, by his new ex. There is nothing that can be done untill they get it sorted out [HeHe] when is your pensions due, posibly about te same time as this will be sorted!

catenorfolk

well if the ex's ex is going to apply to the csa, then i would apply in order that you see some maintenance

Merry_Gentry

If his new ex is happy with it, once the assessment has been done he can do direct payments so the CSA will no longer be involved. However I believe, both of you would have to be happy with this arrangement otherwise you would have to go through the CSA.

Caroline73_2

Thank goodness for common sense.

They managed to sort it out, have taken legal advice and have sorted out maintenance and contact without going through CSA. My son's maintenance stays unaffected.

I think me speaking to them both and explaining how ex and I have been amicable for years made it easy for DS has had an effect!

Ex has said that he doesn't want to have any contact with his daghter though as his new girlfriend is jealous of her...I am lost for words on that one.