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Advice with ex husbands arrears please.
moodydonkey
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Hi, any advice would be appreciated.
After 3 years of not being able to get the CSA to track down my ex they have caught up with him. (quite rightly) And this is where I know I am going to sound very selfish. At last we are in a good place and have come to a private agreement that we are happy with and our children are happy with ( it was them that finally got him to pay something) So I agreed with him an amount that we were all happy with. I agreed to write off what he owed to me and the CSA confirmed that they were happy for him to pay me direct.
So now that we are all in a good place, happy relationships, maintenance settled and good contact (nothing related to money I might add) the CSA have now taken 219 pounds from his wages with no warning.
He admits that this is money owed to the CSA and nothing to do with me but his own fault.
He owes 2900 and the CSA are taking 219 from his wages. He has confirmed with his HR that they had no prior knowledge of this.
He is happy to pay the money and i've shown him evidence of our written direct agreement that means that his arrears payment to me has been written off. However he will really struggle with this amount taken out of his wages every month and I know that the payment for our children will be the first thing to go. Don't get me wrong I 'm thankful that he is paying but am really peeved that myself and him had finally sorted things out and then lo and behold when we choose to pay direct the CSA finally spring into action
Oh I really babble.
Anyway his payment would mean the arrears would be paid off within 14 months. Are there more reasonable terms that he could offer?
He want's to pay our children the maintenance that was agreed.
He acknowledges that he owes the arrears but would like to reduce the payments if possible.
Any advice would be most welcome. I warned him of this but hey he chose to ignore it. On a purely selfish note, would a letter from me stating his regular payments and my worry that this reduction of wages would affect his ability to pay be any help?
I realise to be honest that this isn't my problem but his but I feel that I have maybe more people to help in this situation than he does so I really would appreciate any advice that anyone has.
Many thanks in advance
Moody
After 3 years of not being able to get the CSA to track down my ex they have caught up with him. (quite rightly) And this is where I know I am going to sound very selfish. At last we are in a good place and have come to a private agreement that we are happy with and our children are happy with ( it was them that finally got him to pay something) So I agreed with him an amount that we were all happy with. I agreed to write off what he owed to me and the CSA confirmed that they were happy for him to pay me direct.
So now that we are all in a good place, happy relationships, maintenance settled and good contact (nothing related to money I might add) the CSA have now taken 219 pounds from his wages with no warning.
He admits that this is money owed to the CSA and nothing to do with me but his own fault.
He owes 2900 and the CSA are taking 219 from his wages. He has confirmed with his HR that they had no prior knowledge of this.
He is happy to pay the money and i've shown him evidence of our written direct agreement that means that his arrears payment to me has been written off. However he will really struggle with this amount taken out of his wages every month and I know that the payment for our children will be the first thing to go. Don't get me wrong I 'm thankful that he is paying but am really peeved that myself and him had finally sorted things out and then lo and behold when we choose to pay direct the CSA finally spring into action
Oh I really babble.
Anyway his payment would mean the arrears would be paid off within 14 months. Are there more reasonable terms that he could offer?
He want's to pay our children the maintenance that was agreed.
He acknowledges that he owes the arrears but would like to reduce the payments if possible.
Any advice would be most welcome. I warned him of this but hey he chose to ignore it. On a purely selfish note, would a letter from me stating his regular payments and my worry that this reduction of wages would affect his ability to pay be any help?
I realise to be honest that this isn't my problem but his but I feel that I have maybe more people to help in this situation than he does so I really would appreciate any advice that anyone has.
Many thanks in advance
Moody
Sadly, you don't have any badges yet but keep trying! See what you could get........... oh boo hoo I am crying into my wine. 
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Were you on benefits at all when the arrears were building up?0
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kelloggs36 wrote: »Were you on benefits at all when the arrears were building up?
I have always been on benefits, have a figure that is owed to me that I have written off (725) it is payment to the Government that it is owed as far as I believe.Sadly, you don't have any badges yet but keep trying! See what you could get........... oh boo hoo I am crying into my wine.0 -
In which case the very most they will consider (and it by no means guaranteed) is they will extend the period over which he pays the arrearst o 24 months. It is their steer that they recover all debt within a 2 year period, and they are really pushing this hard so they may not budge at all. You won't have any say in the matter though as the money isn't owed to you.0
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kelloggs36 wrote: »In which case the very most they will consider (and it by no means guaranteed) is they will extend the period over which he pays the arrearst o 24 months. It is their steer that they recover all debt within a 2 year period, and they are really pushing this hard so they may not budge at all. You won't have any say in the matter though as the money isn't owed to you.
Thankyou for your help, I appreciate it.Sadly, you don't have any badges yet but keep trying! See what you could get........... oh boo hoo I am crying into my wine.0
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