Weekly Flylady Thread 25th May 2009 *** stars at post 516 ***

soappie

Valli wrote: »

Soappie I have evaluated what I have done (most rooms to some level) and think 3 stars would be right as I have done the equivalent of 3 full lists (plus a bit but I'm not greedy) - if you have time that is...

Your wish is my command...

froddington

Valli wrote: »

You got it Froddy!

(half hour planning for lessons - we plan them, we teach them, we evaluate them...)

aw that's so not nice...she must have known you wouldn't approve or she'd have asked for cover IYSWIM...has it all come out or is it just you that now knows (I don'tknow which scenario would be worse TBH)

She says she didn't want me involved! I know the whole extended family well so it's even more difficult. It came out because, after a few drinks on Friday night, she got him to come and meet her in the pub!!! So we are all now in a difficult situation and I've discovered that I have been used as cover many times over the last few months! :mad:

Right, enough of that! Off to sort out the car .............

greenbee

froddington wrote: »

She says she didn't want me involved! I know the whole extended family well so it's even more difficult. It came out because, after a few drinks on Friday night, she got him to come and meet her in the pub!!! So we are all now in a difficult situation and I've discovered that I have been used as cover many times over the last few months! :mad:

Right, enough of that! Off to sort out the car .............

I think you need to re-evaluate whether she's really a friend, and what type. She certainly wasn't thinking about what's best for you when she implicated you in it... even if she claims she didn't want you involved.

As you're clearly not happy about it, I'd make clear to her that you don't want to be implicated, you don't want to know about here affair (I'm assuming you don't approve), and that until she gets her life sorted and her priorities right, you don't want to be involved with her. Spend the time with the people who want to be with you - not the ones who tell people they do, and then swan off with someone else. Point out to her that you're not going to cover for her (and given that she hadn't told you about it, she could easily have been caught out by someone asking you a question about a time she was supposed to be with you anyway), and she's playing a very dangerous game, which already looks like having a major casualty in the form of your friendship.

Remember - you don't need people in your life who have a negative impact. You have to work out whether her moral standards are the same as yours, and if they aren't, whether you are prepared to compromise them for the sake of your friendship. I've always found (and seen numerous examples on here of the damage that toxic friends cause) that the compromise isn't worth it - it makes me feel that I'm failing to live according to what's important to be, and ends up bringing me down.

Anyway... its certainly given you some energy to get your flying done. Toots isn't going to believe you've finally got your living room sorted

Valli

Thanks Soappie

just polished the shoes for school (I like to polish shoes too ) which I do outside and I decided to polish my shiny SHOOTS (short ankle boots) as I probably won't be wearing them for a while - so that when I realise, in a panic, in October, I need clean shoes for work there they'll be:D)

That might be a good extra Pigpen - polish/clean winter shoes and boots and take them to the cobblers for new soles/heels if necessary?

(Then I can cross it off when it appears LOL - not really - only done one pair - there are more to polish and check!)

Well put Greenbee - personally I am of the opinion that if a relationship is going wrong THAT needs to be sorted and baggage dealt with BEFORE getting involved with someone else...

juliejim

Hugs Froddy - I can understand why you're annoyed.

juliejim

I'm going to do some ironing now - my pile's big enough as it is without me washing everything and not doing any ironing! Would anyone like to join me?

Craftyscholar

nicki wrote: »

Morning all....had a bizarre dream last night...tried looking up the interpretations but trying to break it down is driving me nuts so I'm not going to bother any more. General consensus from a number of "images" I remember is that I'm learning and growing as an individual, unleashing my potential :D

Well you can remove that confused smiley for a start.:D
Of course you have potential to unleash :T
Pleased to see your personal list is a lot shorter.

Valli

Goes to get ironing board out...

HH62

Thanks everyone.
Pigpen can you add me back to the list please? Christmas tree added as requested ! I was probably removed months ago.:o:xmastree:

rach

I am going to do a HHC 12-12.30pm if anyone wants to join me!

Then I will shower and get dressed. DH is scrubbing the cooker hood and the hidden bits under the burners on the hob