what do i do now?

cher1977

Ok basically i have a son who is 9 and living with me. His father has him 5 nights out of 14.
The csa have sent a saying to expect £7 a week plus arrears.
But now i have spoken to the father and he has decided to give up work and has no intention of going back.
He is basing this on him starting his own buisiness on a market stall which could do very well but who knows. He said i dint need to know he had given up work but i feel i should have done because we have a child together. He also has two children with another ex so its a real worry for her too.
So my question is what do i do now?

charlie..._7

I think there are a few issues here

You say that the father is giving up work and has no intention of going back, the father you also say is setting out in his own business, which i would take to mean that he is actually going to work.

His market stall may do very well or very poorly only time will tell, but he must of felt it was a worth while pursuit, perhaps his (previous ) job is/was under threat, which would be very believable in these hard times.

Do you really need to know his business ? you will be informed like you have been from the csa of any changes.

Your question of what do i do now? well what do you do? just carry on with life i guess

LizzieS_2

Charlie is incorrect, you will only be informed of changes your ex chooses to tell the csa.

Is your ex unemployed claiming benefits or self-employed now?

Loopy_Girl

LizzieS wrote: »

Charlie is incorrect,

What's the chances of that eh?!!!:rolleyes::D:D

She's been a busy girl tonight Lizzie....apparantly me, Kelloggs and Zara should burn in hell. Again:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

LizzieS_2

Yeah, she forgot me who got all the pm's about the murdered girl. Maybe she didn't want me to publicly out her posts elsewhere, lol.

DUTR

LizzieS wrote: »

Charlie is incorrect, you will only be informed of changes your ex chooses to tell the csa.

Is your ex unemployed claiming benefits or self-employed now?

In fairness , I think Charlie was reffering to the part about the OP knowing his (the ex's) business, it is none of the OP's business

cher1977

how can you say that it is none of my business when the little money i was getting for my son is now going to be stopped, not to mention all the arrears they were going to start collecting. If u cannot reply without the jibes then don't bother because you really put people off by asking for advice on here when all you get back is sarcastic comments

Zara33

cher1977 wrote: »

how can you say that it is none of my business when the little money i was getting for my son is now going to be stopped, not to mention all the arrears they were going to start collecting. If u cannot reply without the jibes then don't bother because you really put people off by asking for advice on here when all you get back is sarcastic comments

Ignore the sarcastic comments people will help as much as possible.

DUTR

cher1977 wrote: »

how can you say that it is none of my business when the little money i was getting for my son is now going to be stopped, not to mention all the arrears they were going to start collecting. If u cannot reply without the jibes then don't bother because you really put people off by asking for advice on here when all you get back is sarcastic comments

I think you are missing the point of my post, you are no longer a couple so he does not have to report to you what he is doing with his life and work to quote you "He said i dint need to know he had given up work but i feel i should have done because we have a child together. He also has two children with another ex so its a real worry for her too."

I do agree parents should contribute financially, what a lot of you PWCs are missing at the moment, is that using the csa as a spite tool or making contributing appear to be a punishment is attracting the kind of behavour you are experiencing.
I'd say try a different tact, you both made the baby so one is not more important than the other, perhaps then you may get a more willing response from the ex, what have you got to lose?

I hope you see that I'm not trying to antagonise you, good luck with your quest.

Soubrette

cher1977 wrote: »

how can you say that it is none of my business when the little money i was getting for my son is now going to be stopped, not to mention all the arrears they were going to start collecting. If u cannot reply without the jibes then don't bother because you really put people off by asking for advice on here when all you get back is sarcastic comments

Cher - the arrears will still be payable as far as I know.

His market stall is still work and he should be registered as self employed from when he starts work not when he starts to be paid.

Are you on good terms with him? If so then you could point out that self employment still has to be registered and that someone could phone the tax fraud helpline and 'dob' him in at any time. As I understand it, the CSA assesses self employed people by using their last 12 months of income - I would phone and ask what the situation is when they are just switching to self employment.

If someone is annoying or upsetting you on this forum then it is easy to put them on ignore - click on their username, then on their profile - on the right hand side of this is a message which says something like 'add username to your ignore list'

They unfortunately do not disappear from sight but you don't have to read their words any more.

Good luck

Sou