What do do when the CSA fails you

snooty_2

hi there wondering if anyone can put a few things straight for me.
i had my son eight years and i have never recieved a penny. i asked the csa to review the case in jan 09 and nearly five months later they tell me he is self employed but living abroad so he still doesn't have to pay is this right?? i doesn't seem right somehow!!

AnxiousMum

Depending on where he lives - do you know what country he lives in and if there is a reciprocal agreement with that country to enforce child support? Do you know which country he is in?

klndesigns

My son is now 16 years old, i had a paternity test done through csa and i got an initial award for just under £60 a week which i thought was great, i never saw a penny and he has not paid a penny since. My award went from £57.57 a week to nil in a small amount of time. This sickened me as my sons dad has a new wife, he took on her kids and has another son himself who he does support but nothing for my son. Now my son is older ive not got any hope of any payment from them at all which is not fair. Ive brought my son up on my own all his life and i get/got nothing even though i went through the right avenues. I even gave the CSA details of where my sons dad worked, where he moved to etc but it seems he has been on benefits for years and did this only to stop paying me what he should be paying. Some people are lucky enough to get CSA and have no problems but my heart goes out to those who like me have had to fight but have got no where.

SuziQ

klndesigns wrote: »

My son is now 16 years old, i had a paternity test done through csa and i got an initial award for just under £60 a week which i thought was great, i never saw a penny and he has not paid a penny since. My award went from £57.57 a week to nil in a small amount of time. This sickened me as my sons dad has a new wife, he took on her kids and has another son himself who he does support but nothing for my son. Now my son is older ive not got any hope of any payment from them at all which is not fair. Ive brought my son up on my own all his life and i get/got nothing even though i went through the right avenues. I even gave the CSA details of where my sons dad worked, where he moved to etc but it seems he has been on benefits for years and did this only to stop paying me what he should be paying. Some people are lucky enough to get CSA and have no problems but my heart goes out to those who like me have had to fight but have got no where.

Makes you wonder how these fathers square their concience,doesn't it? How can they just abandon a child like that and go on and have other children they then choose to support? My first ex has always been self employed and hasn't paid maintenance for our 18 year old or 13 year old-ever. CSA gave up as they said he didn't answer letters,kept moving,went abroad for up to 2 months at a time and refused to comply. He didn't have a driving licence to impound (had already lost it for drunk driving x 3-boy,I know how to pick them!) and they couldn't find him to take legal action. He has changed his Nat ins number several times,and has also changed his name. He is now paying money directly to the oldest to help her at Uni-like many men he had a 'thing' about paying money to me as he thought I would spend it on myself (even though he knew in our 15 years together I am just not someone who spends much on themself and always worked,often earning more than him before we had the children.) I have had to let it go as otherwise you get very bitter. My kids see him (when he deigns to spend the time!) but have no respect for his behaviour and know how hard I've always worked to give them a nice home. I'm sure your son knows this too.