Update on my son at Uni thread!!

gilly41

Hi
I just wanted to say that I am sooo glad that I took everyones advice and didnt give my son the £20 he "needed" for food shopping.
He has been working this weekend in his new job at the local Golf Club just up the road from his digs at Uni.He was meant to work each evening til 11 but got the chance to stop on til 2am both days as there were functions on!! He has made £80 this weekend!!! I can honestly say that if I had just given in and said ok I will put the cash in your bank that he would probably have turned down the extra 3 hours each night!!!! I know just how lazy he can be!!!
Thanks again everyone
xx

skintchick

See - you ARE the best mum in the world!!! Well done, honey.

Spendalot_2

As a mother, I know it's the hardest thing in the world to say no to your children! But, its most of the time, its for the best!

I had a friend, whose mother was mega strict with cash in her teenage, and young adult life. When her cash was gone, it was gone. If she went hungry, she went hungry, if she had to walk to work, she walked to work. She is now my only friend without debts, and seems somewhat content with her lot.

So although it seems tough, see it through, you are doing your son a big favour! I also liked someone elses post about the large bag of value pasta and tinned tomatoes. If you really cant see him starve, I think its a great idea to deliver the most basic food you can!

jesster_2

well done gilly41!

I'm not a mum, and can imagine it must be very hard for you to say no. But it's not that long since i was a student.

Yes, it can be difficult when everyone else is out spending and drinking. I went to quite a posh uni full of shockingly rich people, and I can remember almost fainting with shock when one of my friends phoned her dad from a clothes shop to get him to transfer money into her account because her card had just bounced when she tried to buy a new pair of jeans. And her dad did it!

And yes it can be difficult taking yourself off to work two or three nights a week when everyone else is having fun. I didn't want to work, but I did. And i'm really glad i did, because although i'm still paying off my student debts, they could be so much worse if it weren't for that £40 a week i earned.

University is about lots of things: getting your degree, having a good time... but also about learning about life. And managing your money is, as we all know, a massive part of that. You have to learn to live within your means, and to make priorities over what you can and cannot afford, eg expensive trips to see your girlfriend. It's all part of university, and part of growing up, and you should view it as a crucial lesson: it's one he'll benefit from in years to come.