need help, work 12 hour shifts so family not eating well when im not there to cook...

Valli

ok point taken...
but why do they take longer to 'grow up'?

Have you 'discussed' the fact that he, and they need to eat sensibly? - in other words is he willing to come on board with your plan?

babychick

So much of your original post reminds me of my own situation, I'm a student nurse with 2 young children and an OH who doesn't know how to/won't cook! For me obviously it's only a problem when I'm on placement at the moment but I usually find my weekends are spent meal planning and cooking bits for the freezer - I usually take the shepherds pie/lasagne/dish of the day from the freezer and put it into the oven before I go to wrok, then it defrosts throughout the day and just takes about half an hour to warm through when they get back home at suppertime. It is hard but I'm slowly convincing my OH that it's much better and CHEAPER to do it that way than a load of takeaways and ready meals.

Hope you manage to get something worked out.:beer:

Zed42

Firstly, OP .. I have complete sympathy with your situation.

In an ideal world the female goes off for a "peaceful" day and works, whilst the person left at home ... does what needs to be done, without constant reminders.

However, in the real world, it just doesn't seem to happen like that.

My OH is a pretty good cook, if unimaginative ... and needs direction.

Would a meal plan work / help ?

I know that if I have to cook on a daily basis and decide what we're going to have on a daily basis .. I get bored senseless.

If I sit down once a week and set a meal plan (with input from people if they care!) .. then it's a darned sight easier.. to the point that if I don't do it and DH is "cooking" invariably it's takeout, if we do a mealplan, then no matter how complex .. he gives it a go...

Oh and batch cooking is great too, I love having our ready meals

Also, cooking double the quantity when cooking does help immensely.

It's not one tactic, it's lots