1st Appointment with the vicar next week

rinroo

Me and H2B meet with the vicar the middle of next week to confirm dates and go through things and to pay the deposit.

I am not religious, have never been christened, h2b has, but never goes to church unless there is a funeral. He insisted we got married in a church as I was more than happy with the registry office.

Its a unitarian church we are marrying in. We have to attend church 3 times before the wedding and for a wedding rehersal.

Will the vicar ask about hymms, songs or readings that we would like? If so, I'll be stumped. Would we have to have these? I know the organist is included in the price as is a choir will he ask what they should play/sing?

Can anyone offer a bit of advice.

Reading that back I sound a bit dumb, but i like to be prepared. I feel a right hypocrite marrying in a church but thats what h2b wants

nat82

Hi Rinroo!

The vicar may well ask about hymns and readings and I think that if your getting married in a church then you'll be expected to have these as part of your service. Whether you HAVE to have them, I'm not sure.

xxx

xjoannexxx

we have got our 1st appointment next thursday i was wondering this as well. We went to see him last month but could sort anything out as h2b had lost his divorce papers so had to go to court n cost us £40

clearing_out_my_pockets

If I were you, I'd ask to borrow a hymn book and ask if they have other orders of service you can borrow. Priests and vicars will always have an idea of what sounds 'right' at a wedding.

Herbiecat

Im not religious at all but my fave hymm is Dance Said Wherever You May Be (something like that anyway!). I went to my future step daughters Easter choir service last week and I had a good old sing song to it.

Dont know why im teling you that

MsChazzer

From what I've hear Unitarians are pretty open minded and relaxed, you've probably picked the best one for your beliefs. You may well be able to have non-religious music and readings.

rinroo

Thanks for the replies.

I might have a brief search of popular hymms and readings, so at least i have a bit of a clue, but then just see what the reverand says. The only thing I know about him is he's American!

*Louise*

Justsay you are unmdecided as yet and ask him what he suggests.

He is going to know better than anyone else what the best wedding hymns and readings are.

raspabarbas

He may well ask you if there are any you prefer, but a lot of priests will know what readings are popular and well-received.

I was in John Lewis (other dept stores are available!) the other day and they had some little books with popular readings and songs in. You could go and have a look through those - easier than trawling through the whole Bible!

Leylauk

I am having a church wedding and found this site useful:

http://www.yourchurchwedding.org/hymns-media-player.aspx

They have MP3s of popular wedding hymns and readings so it might help. We are not religious but I have actually enjoyed attending church and having a sing song before the wedding lol

Sammy_Girl

Herbiecat wrote: »

Im not religious at all but my fave hymm is Dance Said Wherever You May Be (something like that anyway!). I went to my future step daughters Easter choir service last week and I had a good old sing song to it.

Dont know why im teling you that

yay, that's Lord of the Dance! We're having that as our final hymn

OP, good luck with the meeting - ours is in a couple of weeks. He'll prob want to talk to you about hymns, readings and timings. He will know what the usual wedding hymns are - and you'll prob be surprised from how many you remember from school - ie Morning Has Broken, All Things Bright and Beautiful etc.