hen night - not sure i want one

becb1

Hey all

I'm not really sure I want a hen night!! This is striking all of my friends as quite odd, as normally I love to be the centre of attention - I am a very bubbly, sociable person... :beer:

But I am not sure about a hen night! H2B is having a stag weekend up in newcastle and that's going to cost a bomb, so I can't pretend that there's not a little bit of a financial consideration on my part...

Do you think I should have a little hen night to humour everyone? Or should I stick to my guns?

Did anyone on here not have one and feel they missed out? Or have one and think it really wasn't worth it?

Thanks for the advice

susan1105

i wish i hadnt bothered i organised a mini bus to manchester went to a cabaret club looking back i would have prefered a chinese or a spa weekend with a bunch of friends.

shellsuit

I just want to go out for a nice meal and for some drinks afterwards.

I don't want to be spending a silly amount of money on a hen night.

mandragora_2

I didn't have one - never felt I'd missed out, and the marriage has lasted 25 years, so I guess it can't have been a critical thing...

What I did do as I was getting married away from home, was spend an evening with a few very close friends a couple of nights before, having a nice meal and drink in a local pub; as husband to be and his few close friends ended up joining us and sharing a couple of drinks, it wouldn't really count as a hen or stag night, I wouldn't think.
I just think you should only ever do what makes sense to you, with these kinds of things. In my opinion, the whole 'hen/stag' thing is overrated and a little bit silly, but the, I am rrrrreeeeaaaalllllly old, so may not quite be in the swing of all these modern trends!!

debs2327

im not really wanting one either as my sister in laws loves there drink and drinks regularly all get on really well while i always feel left out as i dont like the expensive handbags and shoes dont like partying , dont go to expensive stores , and they all do !!not that im a skin flint or anything just things like that doesnt apeal to me , plus i dont want a massive !!!! up cos i dont really drink cos the tablets im on makes me feel drunk a hell of a lot quicker (metformin ) and plus in not really that keen on them lol could you tell lol andd id be scared that i`ll end up upseting them , id rather have a lovely meal with my inlaws at a quiet resturante ( i live 200 mile away from my family )

*Louise*

I don't want a hen night. I don't feel I'm missing about at all. I feel as though my years of prancing around the town getting drunk and being daft are well and truly behind me.

The traditionl hen/stag nights were suppodedly to celebrate a person's 'last night of freedom' well for us that passed by 12 years ago :rotfl:

We are going out with both sets of parents for a nice meal the night before the wedding, that'll do me nicely.

lindsey_toffee_girl

becb1 wrote: »

Hey all

I'm not really sure I want a hen night!! This is striking all of my friends as quite odd, as normally I love to be the centre of attention - I am a very bubbly, sociable person... :beer:

But I am not sure about a hen night! H2B is having a stag weekend up in newcastle and that's going to cost a bomb, so I can't pretend that there's not a little bit of a financial consideration on my part...

Do you think I should have a little hen night to humour everyone? Or should I stick to my guns?

Did anyone on here not have one and feel they missed out? Or have one and think it really wasn't worth it?

Thanks for the advice

Have one!
JUst dont have the normal type of one you can just go:beer: for a meal with your friends and have soem drink this is what I am doing again as of cost I dont think my FI is having one though due to money. I have decided to go for a greek meal they have a DJ and plate smashing night so no one needs to move which I like the idea of so we can all stay in the same place also the meal is only fifteen pound for a banquet, try looking for something like this x

gill_81uk

I'm having 3

Had a small one with the girls from work last night. 9.95 at local hotel for chicken in a basket and a disco!

Then I'm having my 'proper' one organised by chief bridesmaid with my close friends and family which is at a chinese where they hold 'party nights'

Finally I will be having a tiny little one with 2 friends (who don;t know or live near the friends at the others nights) where we will just go to the pub and have a bottle of wine and a good chat.

The important thing for me is just an excuse to celebrate with my nearest and dearest lol xxx

Rikki

I had a meal cooked for me and a group of friends. We spent the night eating, drinking and talking. I wouldn't have done it any other way.

Do what you want its your hen night.

s4aRainyDay

I have chosen bridesmaids who think they are still 18, and are dragging me along on 'my' hen night, really not sure I want to go! they keep mentioning fancy dress and flashing L plates:eek:

cte1111

I didn't have a hen night, and don't regret it. If you don't want one, don't have one, it's your wedding and you should have things exactly how you and your HTB want. It's not like you won't be able to go out with your friends and family after you're married.