Getting worried about work and guest lists :(

kr15snw

And this is only the engagement do!

For a bit of background:

Where I work its mainly full time staff in my department but there are 3 casual staff who are used every now and then. The 2 casual girl staff NEVER speak to H2B (who is the 3rd casual staff) and dont even acknowledge him in the room as him. They also like to get hammered for free, flirt with everyone in sight and generally annoy me.

We have a venue at work that we LOVE, its all leather and wood and very pretty. So as we wanted a quiet drinks reception for our engagement we decided this would be perfect. Downside it only holds 60 people.

But we worked the list out so that its only 62 people coming

Today I got grabbed by the 2 casual staff (first time Ive seen them in a month) and congratulated and asked about the engagement party. I hastily explained that we didnt know yet and avoided them all day. We have decided not to invite them because of the reasons listed above.

I know where this is going. They will next ask where their invite is, why they arnt invited etc etc. If I get through this they will ask my boss, who likes everyone to be happy. And will then come and complain to me and say I should invite them etc etc. If not she'll just tell them to turn up (venue is at work). If she doesnt do that theyll just turn up!! (They did this at my birthday party and no one thought anything bad of it as one of the girls mums is rather powerfull at work and the venue manager who runs the parties is her best friend).

I HATE confrontation and wimp out easily. But are they likely to all hate me and cause major arguments if I blatantly tell them 'do not come'.

Eeek

lindsey_toffee_girl

If I was you I would just invite them, I dont think you should have to but like you have said if you dont it may cause more problems, also you and your H2B will not have to spend anytime with them anyway so will they really affect your party?
On the other hand if it was me I wouldnt invite them, I would just tell them that is it for close friends and there is already too many people coming??
Hmm I dont know what to tell you just do what is easiest for you and what causes you the least hassle x

kr15snw

Hmm its a tricky one.

OH definately doesnt want them there, they dont talk to him and he doesnt like them. Lol.

Plus the plan is to have a quiet thing with just close friends so we can chat. Theres no loud music or dancing. Its just gonna be very very relaxed and a way of us celebrating our news with our closest friends. If they come they will stand at the bar drinking the free champagne were putting on for the toast (theyll take as many as they can carry) and flirting with all of OHs football friends.

Wish we didnt love the venue at work now, we could then invite one or two and tell them to keep stum about it!!

lindsey_toffee_girl

If it is going to be intimate then I would tell them that it is only for close friends and that you are sorry you cannot invite everyone and there is other people you would of liked to invite as well as them (!) but you cant!

kr15snw

If they just turn up am I likely to regret getting the OH to ask them to leave?

lindsey_toffee_girl

Yep!
I would not mention it again to them hopefully they are not that stupid they would turn up uninvited though if they do I think you should ignore them then and have a quiet word afterwards, its really tricky cos you work with them both and it has wider consequences x

xJayJayx

at my engagement do we invited everyone from work, with a few exceptions and then people we had invited, invited them which ended up in me having a go at 1 person in particular at work. we also avoided inviting someone else that used to work at our place because he is a troublemaker, however we had our party in the pub so i couldn't do much about them turning up. Thankfully none of the uninvited people turned up and we had a fabulous time with 30-40 people there.
Even if these people turn up at your party 60 people is enough for you not to notice they are there so don't worry, tbh if i wouldn't of noticed with the amount of people i had at mine either!