Son's school has lost his coat

bestpud

jem16 wrote: »

I don't remember jumping to any conclusions about the type of parent you are.

No-one dismissed the OP offhand - suggestions have been made about how to go about finding the jacket.

However what I took exception to was that somehow the lost jacket was the school's fault.

This statement by the OP;

and the thread's title;

"Son's school has lost his coat"

suggests that the OP feels that the school is to blame.

Ah right. You quoted me so I thought you were including me in your comment about parents increasingly looking to blame others. That, I can assure you I do not do!

I agree the school is not to blame but we disagree on the lengths the school should go to in order to find the jacket.

I feel it is entirely appropriate to search properly and ask other pupils/parents to look out for a brand new, and named, jacket at home. You feel this would be fruitless.

I feel the school has dismissed the OP offhand - not the posters on here! That was my impression. I think the advice on here has been pretty good tbh.

bestpud

inkie wrote: »

Well, as a parent and a Governor, I would say that it is not the responsibility of the school. How can it be? It's part of parenting. Having lost item(s) can be incovenient, annoying, expensive, but part and parcel of a child being at school.
Wonder if school should start and display disclaimer notices stating that 'they cannot be reponsible for any loss of belongings however caused'......???

I'm sure they'd have done so if they were able. My guess is there is some reason they are not allowed.

jem16

bestpud wrote: »

Ah right. You quoted me so I thought you were including me in your comment about parents increasingly looking to blame others.

Sorry - never meant that for a minute.

That, I can assure you I do not do!

That's good. I am also sure there are many like you too.

I feel it is entirely appropriate to search properly

That I do agree with.

and ask other pupils/parents to look out for a brand new, and named, jacket at home. You feel this would be fruitless.

From experience of asking parents, it usually is unfortunately.

scat

My son is at secondary school. We spent a lot of money on school logo'd sports kit and every single item has gone missing. In part this is my son's fault as he forgets to stick half of it in his bag and leaves it on the floor, in part the schools because they bung everything in lost property and from there it's a free for all. Forget your kit and your told to help yourself.. hence the impossibility of ever recouping anything! My answer has been to stop buying the overpriced branded unifrom they insist upon.. have said I'll buy one of each item and thereafter he can take anything remotely appropriate that I find in a sale. I think school's have to take a little responsibility for misplaced items...

I also speak as a teacher, if a parent approaches me about missing items I do take time out to search for them - I know how it feels!

shop-to-drop

scat wrote: »

My son is at secondary school. We spent a lot of money on school logo'd sports kit and every single item has gone missing. In part this is my son's fault as he forgets to stick half of it in his bag and leaves it on the floor, in part the schools because they bung everything in lost property and from there it's a free for all. Forget your kit and your told to help yourself.. hence the impossibility of ever recouping anything! My answer has been to stop buying the overpriced branded unifrom they insist upon.. have said I'll buy one of each item and thereafter he can take anything remotely appropriate that I find in a sale. I think school's have to take a little responsibility for misplaced items...

I think you son goes to my sons school. In fact I think your son is my son. Actually are you me? LOL

dizziblonde

skylight wrote: »

We have sewn labels in my kids stuff and still it gets lost. It just gets thrown into the lost property box and despite school letters telling us that teachers go through this on a weekly basis it obviously isn't so, as I find it when I search through!

Oh my old TA used to have an ongoing war with the lost property box (it happened to be outside my room). She'd regularly get sick of it overflowing, go through it all and march to the appropriate classrooms brandishing jumpers in a menacing fashion!

Did however come across year5's solution to the hard task of hanging their coats up (I mean, they walk PAST their pegs as they come in from the yard) - they all just used to take their coats off and chuck them in the lost property box for the day - to parents... this might explain why half your kids' stuff goes missing! We gave them what for on that to be greeted with blank looks and a "but that's what it's there for innit?" Head... meet brick wall....

msb5262

My kids' Primary school has No Smoking signs inside all the classrooms, kids cloakrooms and kids toilets.
Unfortunately at the primary school where I'm working at present, we've had year 5 children (aged 9 - 10) smoking in the toilets - so maybe the signs would make sense!

inkie

Quote:
Originally Posted by inkie
Well, as a parent and a Governor, I would say that it is not the responsibility of the school. How can it be? It's part of parenting. Having lost item(s) can be incovenient, annoying, expensive, but part and parcel of a child being at school.
Wonder if school should start and display disclaimer notices stating that 'they cannot be reponsible for any loss of belongings however caused'......???

I'm sure they'd have done so if they were able. My guess is there is some reason they are not allowed.

There is no reason as to why they are not allowed - probably don't see the need for them, but if schools are being deemed responsible then perhaps they need to start and state the obvious

bestpud

inkie wrote: »

There is no reason as to why they are not allowed - probably don't see the need for them, but if schools are being deemed responsible then perhaps they need to start and state the obvious

I guess it is because they do have some responsibility?

Not in this case, but there are other instances where a school could be responsible for an item of clothing going missing, or being damaged?

As I understand it (although I may be talking tripe!) these notices mean nothing anyway; even if they are in a private carpark for example?

I think warning signs would be very useful though, for parent and children. I just don't know if they can state they will take no responsibility?

Lunar_Eclipse

I would check lost property, ask to check the classroom thoroughly yourself (or all classrooms if the school is small - things travel!) and consider writing a quick note to go home in the book bags to all parents if the coat was expensive or replacing it isn't viable. I've never done this but it is an option.

In terms of who was responsible, I would say the only option is your child. Although as frustrating as this is I would try not to be thinking of laying blame and just doing what you can in an attempt to get it returned. I mean a parent could have stolen it, in which case he nor the school are to blame. Sad but true thought.