flowers for mothers

tudorfan22

were having a quandry, can you help us? should we get flowers for the mothers even though they havent really helped with the wedding planning? is it bad etiquette not to get them a bouquet?

any thoughts?

bluemeanie999

my thoughts are they have brought you into the world and got you to your special day where 'offically' you break from their apron-strings - get them as a formal thank you for everything they have done in your lives so far x

*Louise*

I think it's a nice gesture towards all the years they have put in to bringing you both up.

I would still get our mums flowers even if they hadn't helped with anything.

gill_81uk

Do you want to take the chance of your mum and mil being disappointed on the day?

I think it is etiquette to get them flowers as a thankyou for everything they have done up to this point for you, as the OP pointed out. If they are expecting/hoping to get a bouquet on the day then it could mar the occasion for them.

It doesnt need to be anything expensive, you can get some lovely bunches for £10 - £15 if you are on a tight budget

xJayJayx

i don't really want to give flowers to my MIL and my mum doesn't keep flowers.. but i think i'll have to still do it and a gesture of thanks.
Get a couple of bunches of Tesco finest flowers for a tenner each, bargain. They keep for a couple of weeks too so even better.

tudorfan22

thanks guys i will get them a bunch of flowers each! very much appreciated

hope i didnt come across as ungrateful, just wasnt sure what the ettiquette was

clearing_out_my_pockets

OH & I have decided that we're giving our mothers one of the centrepieces each. With that in mind, we've chosen our centrepieces to match our mothers' tastes!

shellsuit

Hmmm, We will give to my Mum, but what about OH's stepmum?

We've been together for 7 years, I'm due a baby in 6 weeks and I've met his stepmum ONCE in all that time.

I don't want my Mum to miss out because she is so good to us, but I don't want to be giving flowers to someone who I don't know, just because of the 'name tag' she has.

gill_81uk

Did she bring him up or contribute towards the wedding?

If she married his Dad when he was older then I don't think you need to honour her. However if she played a big part in his upbringing and he wants to give her flowers then maybe you could?

987654

I didn't want to give MIL any as she didn't really approve of our relationship & was more of a hindrance than a help in the run up to the wedding.

My Mum fully understood this & we gave her flowers and a thanks 'quietly' which she fully understood.

shellsuit

gill_81uk wrote: »

Did she bring him up or contribute towards the wedding?

If she married his Dad when he was older then I don't think you need to honour her. However if she played a big part in his upbringing and he wants to give her flowers then maybe you could?

No and No.

OH was a teen when her and his Dad got married.

I don't mind at all if OH wants to give her flowers, but what do we say?

shellsuits Mum thanks for all you have done for us over the years, thanks for helping with the baby and the wedding and...etc etc

OH's Mum......here you go have some flowers.

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