Please Help.. Don't know what to do anymore

creased-leach

Handbags & shoes (or whatever floats your boat) are for showing off to your friends.
He's an individual.

Maybe as such he doesn't need/want close friends, and he doesn't feel the need to participate in a popularity contest to prove a point.

If you're bored with him, step up to the mark & deal with it rather than making excuses to pick at him.

You've said that he's a good bloke- if you're that bothered by the unimportant, peripheral stuff, set him free to find someone who'll appreciate him.

Good luck.

Spirit_2

Thank goodness for anonymity. You can post safely about how you feel here without doing him any harm.

Were you just having a bad day or do you regularly feel like this?

If this is a regular feeling then you have already had a variety of advice on revitalisaing or ending it, so I won't be repetitive.

My advice is keep the negative stuff on here, get it off your chest here, and treat this man with the dignity he deserves.

When we marriedI had a small but gregarious group of friends, my shy OH had no close friends. 25 years later he has a really close group of friends he sees weekly , grown over the alst 15 years through sport, neighbours, shared experiences. They are like "last of the summer wine" .

I have a totally different group of friends now mainly made through work, or the wives of his friends. I would be very lonely without him.

s_michaels

I hope your partner comes on and sees this and realises how shallow you are.

He's much better off without you and I agree that there are loads of women who are out there looking for a guy just like him.

Anger over, if you do love him like you say you do, what attracted you to him in the first place? As from what you have said about all his supposed bad qualities, they were right there from the start, and they are only bad qualities to you.

I am 21 and I don't like going out that much, i would rather stay in and spend quality time with a partner. I have hobbies and interests, I do also like going out and seeing a few friends but only on occasions. Does that make me boring?

As for all these male friends of yours going out drinking without him, have you actually asked them why they don't invite him or asked him why he doesn't ask if he can tag along?

Sounds to me that your partner has no clue that he is doing anything wrong and you are picking fault for no reason.

susan63

Well sounds to me that, as you said, you love him but you're not IN LOVE with him...otherwise you wouldn't really mind if he is shy or how he looks, you would just be crazy about him and the hell to everyone else. Some people might be able to live with that and take the safe option but if you want more I think you should be fair to both of you and make a decision. It won't be the easiest thing to do and both of you will be hurt but maybe after a while you will see that it was the best thing you could have ever done. Think about it and hope you take the best decision!