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jacklink

step mums, dont begrudge your step children there father (or mum),

kelloggs36

same goes for natural fathers who want to forget their old lives as it is inconvenient to them now.

DeeDee74

i'm sure there arent a large amount of stepmums that dont want there stepchildren in there husbands lives.
these with children of there own know how important it is to have both parent involved in the childs life.

kelloggs now true,
dee x

pinkpig08

Another nice comment to start a thread full of arguments :rolleyes:

kelloggs36

Actually Pinkpig08 this was a nice bit of info from Jacklink (for a change!!)

SmellyOldSock

I'm a step mum to 3 children, we also have 3 together. Its not always easy being a step mum, but I knew from the start my hubbie had the other 3, they are an active part of our lives, here most weekends and school holidays. I try to treat them as mine, but at the end of the day, they have there mum, I'm just an extra!

I think what you're trying to get at is if the stepmum/father is resentful of the children. I've learnt that my relationship with their father is very different to theres and i do have to take a step back and let them have him to themselves, its hard and sometimes hurts, but I hope to reap the rewards in the long run!

pinkpig08

kelloggs36 wrote: »

Actually Pinkpig08 this was a nice bit of info from Jacklink (for a change!!)

I understand the well meaning message behind it, but jacklink is good at making sweeping comments with no explanation to back it up, thus getting everyones' backs up!

kelloggs36

I agree wholeheartedly!!

pink_princess

You are so right my step son is my life (have him full time).He has contact to his mum 24/7 by phone and every other weekend in person,(and any extra she can get off work).
Children need both parents to feel secure i believe,i just wish this was the status q for all children but it doesn t work for some.
All cases are different as we are all different.