Weekly Flylady Thread 16th February 2009

Valli

mumofjusttwo wrote: »

I completely agree about talking to the children about their dad He is, after all, still their father. I believe/hope that this may actually allow him to spend more quality time with them.

I hope that I am right as they are gorgeous. But I would say that. I am their mum.

Top attitude - I don't know if you were around when I posted that I had to have 'firm' words with my ex as his mother was calling me in front of my two and they were finding that very hard. I pointed out to him that I wasn't criticising him in front of them (just everyone else;)) and I expected hinm and his mother to do the same...
what makes it hard is that they still love their father (as they should) ...he had to realise that. Even now sensible conversations between him and me are few and far between but they do happen...he has moved on now, got a new partner so IMHO he should be able to deal with this maturely.
I echo what everyone else says...you will be fine (great about the shirts though :rotfl: when I see people posting on here about the problems with OHs (and some of them are so immature it has to be said, as was mine) I am glad I am with Crafty and Greenbee

sexymouse

newby money saving chicki

mummyyof5

Thursday - Bathroom & Study
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter floors[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wash bathmats[/STRIKE] & shower curtains.New shower curtain to put up
Level Two
Scrub tiles and baths and showers and sinks and loos
[STRIKE]Wash the windows[/STRIKE]
Wash floors
Level Three
HHI
Wash any soft furnishings that need doing
Clear the pc desk
Extras

1. Sort out your coat pockets and handbag
2. Scrub the radiators
3. Wash the paintwork
4. Deweb and ust and demould these rooms!

Need to go to town next to pay bills,will finish the rest when I get back.

Lots of love to newby money saving chicki,such a sad time for you.

I think I have the best of both worlds with my OH,we are together but he tours a lot so its like being single three quaters of the time,he is very messy when he is at home though which drives me MAD

AnW'sMum

Morning all

Had a very lazy one here so far. Just watch Grand Designs and chatted with my friend on the phone.

Miss A has a one to one swimming lesson this lunch time to see if the teacher can get her to do her breast stroke legs properly. After that we are going out with another friend, not sure exactly where yet but won;t be back until late afternoon. First friend is round to babysit later so I can go bellringing tonight so not a lot is going to get done at all around here. But I have emptied the DW this morning so this post is on topic

Do have to say all this talk of man bashing though has got me a bit sad. I know a lot of it is justified but what I would give to be able to man bash mine at this mo.

Hugs to MNSC for the loss of your mu, never easy even when it is expected.

sexymouse

List finished Toots :j (just extras to do)
Thursday - Bathroom & Study
Level One
[strike]Declutter floors[/strike]
[strike]Wash bathmats & shower curtains.[/strike]
Level Two
[strike]Scrub tiles and baths and showers and sinks and loos[/strike]
[strike]Wash the windows[/strike]
[STRIKE]Wash floors[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[strike]Wash any soft furnishings that need doing[/strike]
[strike]Clear the pc desk[/strike]
Extras

1. [STRIKE]Sort out your coat pockets and handbag[/STRIKE]
2. [STRIKE]Scrub the radiators[/STRIKE]
3. [STRIKE]Wash the paintwork[/STRIKE]
4. [strike]Deweb and dust and demould these rooms![/strike]
5. Write list for OH to help declutter this house
6. Freecycle fax machine
7. Go through bag of cosmetics OH horded (from ex-wife's old business) and freecycle some of them

rosepink1984

Morning all, just catching up on the thread, and then going to tackle the dreaded living room. It's a tip, full of clutter and DH's clothes. Need to get it sorted especially as we have a flat inspection coming up and can't remember when it is! :eek:

leiela wrote: »

So what should i do??... do i "re-do" the bath/toilet and sink and risk him noticing that i re-did them?? or do i just leave them as they are even though they are kinda streaky and as still abit mucky??

It this point im just wary of making him feel like he's not doing a good job, because it will discourage him, he's not gonna bother helping if he thinks i'll re-do it all anyway... eekkk decisions decisions.

DH does things like this, I usually say in a nice tone of voice: "THANKS SO MUCH DARLING, I'm so happy you did such and such....I was thinking, maybe next time you could use (insert cleaning product) as it (sanitizes/makes it easier for you/makes it look better/what ever the benefit of using said product is).
What ever you do, don't say "I usually use..." as the answer will be "well you do it then!" :rolleyes: Remember what someone said yesterday, men need lots of praise like a puppy dog does!

My list for today:
Write cards to bereaved family
[STRIKE] Do surveys online
Wash up – one sinkful done another sinkful done[/STRIKE]
Heel balm on heel AM PM MUST DO THIS HAVE FEET LIKE ELEPHANTS (ROUGH SKIN NOT HUGE FEET! )
[STRIKE] Clean out cold bag – spilt cream in it Wahooo This was a yucky job and its done![/STRIKE]
Write cards/letters to friends
[STRIKE] Do washing WM on washing hung out to dry
Put away dry washing from last week
Cardboard ready to recycle
Paper ready to recycle (can see floor by door!!!!!)
Hoovered bathroom
Hoovered rest of flat
Clean bath
DH has taken all recycling away[/STRIKE]

Monday - Kitchen and Dining room
Level One
Level Two
Clear and wipe table - HOTSPOT
Level Three
Wipe all the cupboard fronts, kickboards and large appliance
Wipe and replace all the small appliances
Extras
1. Binbag dance

Wednesdays are Wonderful!! - Living pit
Level One
Declutter the floors!
Level Two
Level Three
Declutter the inside of a cupboard or drawer!
Extras
Get a pile of shredding done!!

Thursday - Bathroom & Study
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter floors done Monday[/STRIKE]
Wash bathmats
Level Two
Scrub tiles [STRIKE]and baths [/STRIKE]and sinks and loos did bath Tuesday
[STRIKE]Wash floors [/STRIKE]hoovered on Monday
Level Three
Extras

1. Sort out your coat pockets and handbag
2. Deweb these rooms! done Monday!

Monday's work is really paying off! I only need to clean the loo and sink and wash the bathmat and I'm done for today's list!

toochoosey

DD has put the hoover round I have S+S'd the kitchen and put some clothes in the TD, off to the shops now, see you all later.......................

kassey

Thursday - Bathroom & Study All done Toots
Level One
[STRIKE]Declutter floors[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wash bathmats & shower curtains.[/STRIKE]
Level Two
[STRIKE]Scrub tiles and baths and showers and sinks and loos[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wash the windows[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wash floors[/STRIKE]
Level Three
[STRIKE]HHI[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Wash any soft furnishings that need doing[/STRIKE]
[STRIKE]Clear the pc desk
Extras[/STRIKE]

1. [STRIKE]Sort out your coat pockets and handbag[/STRIKE]
2. [STRIKE]Scrub the radiators[/STRIKE]
3. [STRIKE]Wash the paintwork[/STRIKE]
4. [STRIKE]Deweb and ust and demould these rooms![/STRIKE]

Beef in the SC for dinner yum

rosepink1984

SummerMoon wrote: »

Morning all.
not sure how much flying I am going to get done today as my hand is really hurting today. I havent knocked it or anything so I am at a loss as to what the problem is..... but it bloody hurts!!
I have so far quote]
Poor Summer. Did you lie on it in the night?

rosepink1984

newby_money_saving_chicki wrote: »

Hi all, i've not been on here this wk as sadly my mum passed away sunday and cleaning has been the last thing on my mind. I have got the vicar coming up in the morning though so i am going to have to have a quick clean up tonight as i don't want to look like i live in a pigs sty. I will try and get back into things next wk as keeping busy seems to help. Mum battled with cancer for many many years without ever complaining and she gave her family such a wonderful life. I will always be greatful for the time we had. Now i am going to make some breakfast and force myself to get in the shower.

I'm so sorry for your loss sweetheart. Keep in touch and let us know how you are getting on, nobody will mind if you want to talk on here, or send me a PM if you need to talk. Take care of yourself, am thinking of you :grouphug: