SIL always leaving presents bought for her kid

hennagirl

Hi

What would you guys do in this situation - for the last three christmases or so, SIL has always left behind presents which we have bought for her child at my MIL house. I get really hurt as I put in a lot of thought into what to buy and always buy something that I have trial tested on my kids or other kids in the family before buying for him.

Unfortunately, SIL always get him the top notch stuff that cost in excess of £30.00 - something I cannot afford to do. Don't get me wrong, I always buy good stuff just not expensive stuff.

On top of that, we always get good gifts for her and my kids always give her a gift as well (always given with much thought about the person). I don't want to fall into the trap of giving money to buy his own gift because as said before, I can't afford it. At the same time, I don't see why I should beat myself up thinking about what to get when it won't be appreciated.

What to do?

gone4gold62

hi if i were you id say to sil that this year your not buying for any ones children .due to credit crunch ect and suggest she does the same , just a idea tho .xx

PasturesNew

Take them home yourself. Wrap them up and give them again the next year.

the_rottweiler

I dont know what op sil is thinking but both my boys have birthdays at xmas so always got 2 lots of pressies, i used to leave a some at my mums so they would not get bored when they were there.
The dumkit mum bought was never ever coming to my house lol

hennagirl

Would love to say that not giving presents this year but I know that the rest of the family will still buy something - then I'll feel embarassed about not having something for them - I agreed with my MIL last Xmas (08) not give out family cards which cost a bomb in my opinion only to find that she still bought some!

Actually I bought the present back this year from MIL house - if SIL doesn't want it, I'm sure I can give it to someone who would appreciate it.

I wouldn't mind if SIL left some of the presents at MIL with the intention of them being played with but they lie around totally unopened for whole years!!

vikingaero

hennagirl wrote: »

At the same time, I don't see why I should beat myself up thinking about what to get when it won't be appreciated.

What to do?

You've answered you own question there. Your SIL seems to be up herself and a version of Mrs Bucket. Just leave the presents wrapped, give them again next year and spend the money on yourself.:D

hennagirl

Vikingaero I like that!!

deloina

Do not always associate the word "Gifts" to something that you can wrap or touch. Consider the most precious gift that you can give to anyone and that's your "Love and Respect". It is free and it will make everyone happy if you can give it properly or on time. :cool:

mumhug

Thats awful I cant understand people like that at all someone really needs to tell her that is the thought that counts. Do they actually open the presents?

How about giving vouchers?

rammy007

Or say instead of presents all put together to take all the kids(depending on their ages) to a pantomime or something else.