CSA advice - why 'screw' the good Dad's??

hamstercheeks_2

enemes wrote: »

hey!
The bottom line is ... just make sure that the children are not being screwed here. They are the ones who are the innocent victims in this .... as one adult throws one ammo at the other.

Prejudices prevail in society. Just because parents split up, it doesn't mean that their children are hated by anyone -- it's the complete opposite, they have two loving entities.

all you say is true but unfortunately, most bitter exes don't quite see it that way (spesh if they haven't yet hooked a new host), it's a competition between good and bad to them (them being good, the other being bad)

WOW just noticed my post count - 666 lol

Mr_Green_Genes

enemes wrote: »

Then again ... if anyone wants to screw this particular 'Good Dad' ...:A

WHAT HAVE I STARTED?????

Mind you, it was my idea so hands off

Btw your comments about the children are just so right. Sadly, those like you and me who have been around forums like this for a while have seen all too frequently that the children can be relegated to last place in the scramble for the parents to get one over on each other.

If I could urge one thing on every parting couple it is "the children didn't ask for this so don't involve them in any of it".

I know at first hand how difficult that is but it is so important.

Mr_Green_Genes

hamstercheeks wrote: »

WOW just noticed my post count - 666 lol

I can't see the mark of the beast on your picture - it must be very small.

Or hidden.

Or both.

Hmmmmm

enemes

Mr_Green_Genes wrote: »

WHAT HAVE I STARTED?????

Mind you, it was my idea so hands off .

Ok ... My hands are off! Its all yours ....

hamstercheeks_2

Mr_Green_Genes wrote: »

If I could urge one thing on every parting couple it is "the children didn't ask for this so don't involve them in any of it".

I know at first hand how difficult that is but it is so important.

ditto totally agree

gets my goat how some folks use them as pawns:mad:

hamstercheeks_2

Mr_Green_Genes wrote: »

I can't see the mark of the beast on your picture - it must be very small.

Or hidden.

Or both.

Hmmmmm

yup so hidden n small i haven't found it yet :rotfl:
dang that's my post count gone over 666 now

enemes

Mr_Green_Genes wrote: »

If I could urge one thing on every parting couple it is "the children didn't ask for this so don't involve them in any of it".

I know at first hand how difficult that is but it is so important.

I know ... you are so right. But... and a wee 'BUT' at that, ... it was my little'un who said to me that he didn't want to go back 'home to mum' ( when he was THREE!). In many ways, I have been fighting his battles for him since, so although he didn't 'ask for this,' unfortunately he is 'involved' despite the fact that I have tried so much to create a sense of transparency for them both over the years. Ain't easy ... then again marriage isn't either, I suppose!

enemes

hamstercheeks wrote: »

yup so hidden n small i haven't found it yet :rotfl:
dang that's my post count gone over 666 now

Hey ... only 332 to go until 999!

hamstercheeks_2

enemes wrote: »

Hey ... only 332 to go until 999!

Yeah :j
then i;ll be upside down beast:rolleyes:

enemes

hamstercheeks wrote: »

Yeah :j
then i;ll be upside down beast:rolleyes:

Cool ... so, those Hamster Cheeks of yours ... what end? Upside down or not? LOL