nothing to do with money saving just dont know what to do

blueye

hi im in a bit of a dilema, i recieved some messages today from my bosses partner and i dont know what to do about it.
i had no intention of telling my boss, to be honest i dont care what their partner does behind their back but i feel weird at work now as he is there everyday i dont want to leave because i like my job, i asked him not to tex or call me again and he replyed he would "for now" im so creeped out by the guy i mean he must have been through her phone to get my number plus the guy knows where i live an that im on my own during the week, not that im saying he would do anything, but i dont know should i tell her or just leave it and hope he goes away, by the way my boss is a bit of a hot head i dont even know if il have a job if i tell her, am so worried.

Liz_the_Whizz

hi blueye,

Just what you don't need, complications at work.

You have done the right thing telling the guy to stop sending you messages. But keep them on your phone in case it starts up again. You may have to approach your boss at that stage.

And talk to friends/neighbours about your concerns in case they see anyone hanging about. Maybe you could go and stay over with someone for a few nights till it all blows over.

Hope it all works out OK for you.

chuckley

block the number. job done.

SomeBozo

Huh? *Blinks*. Come again.

Whats the content of the text messages?
What and why do you not need to tell your boss?
Why should you have to think about leaving because you got a text?
Why are you creeped out by the guy?
What are you scared about your boss doing and why?

Bozo

Reds-on-Sea

I assume you mean "romantic" messages?

SandC

blueeye you must tell your boss about this. Show her the messages and ask her how he got your number in the first place.

You can't lose your job over this and if she does 'kick off' and blame you then you need to take it over her head.

Please, do the right thing. I know you only want an easy life but this is not on.

bryanb

SandC wrote: »

blueeye you must tell your boss about this. Show her the messages and ask her how he got your number in the first place.

You can't lose your job over this and if she does 'kick off' and blame you then you need to take it over her head.

Please, do the right thing. I know you only want an easy life but this is not on.

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Good advice if it's a big company, but how about if the Boss owns the company and there is nobody above her?

SandC

She should still tell her. I know that's difficult and as she says she is a 'hothead' and might just sack her, but there are comebacks to that.

Maybe wait and see if he contacts again but I'm sure that your boss, however hot headed would want to know that her partner is sending gawd knows what kind of text messages to an employee. You are presuming that she will lose her rag at you when she may be just as likely to go after the real culprit - him.

I do understand though. In my last employment I felt that my boss had treated me unfairly and a colleague thought the same. There was nobody I could turn to because she was the MD, her brother the CEO, her father the chairman. That and the HR manager was not even qualified (ie in her first year at college studying personnel) and matters of grievances were always handled by those directors plus assistance from employment lawyers externally if needed. I asked my other boss 'what do I do if I have a problem with one of you bosses?'. There was never going to be a fair hearing.

Janey3

Hi Blueye. I'm assuming the texts were not work orientated. By him using the words "for now" is a bit threatening, and I think you will have to tell your boss. Is there another colleague working with you that you can confide in and show the text too?

Janey3

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Give him a straight forward warning that if he does send anymore, then you WILL then tell your boss.

bookduck

SandC wrote: »

blueeye you must tell your boss about this. Show her the messages and ask her how he got your number in the first place.

You can't lose your job over this and if she does 'kick off' and blame you then you need to take it over her head.

Please, do the right thing. I know you only want an easy life but this is not on.

Just ignore him, I think that if you say something to his partner, you job will become 'harder', not victimized, but more work and more eyes on you - she would not want a legal case! The reason being you are staff from 9-5, he is 24/7/365 with probably shared property and children.

When I'm ill and watch daytime TV I am always amazed why two women would argue and blame each other for their cheating bloke and not the bloke whom has lied to them both - Wimmen are just weird!