Invites - how to say no children?

aimee21j

ixwood wrote: »

There was another thread on here a while back with someone offended that their children weren't welcome/wanted at a wedding.

What's the motivation for the no kids thing? Is it a symptom of the state of parenting (or lack of) these days? i.e. people don't want unruly, rude, obnoxious brats ruining their day.

For me it is the extra cost. I will only be having children in my immediate family there (my niece/nephew who will be 4 months old).

Edinburghlass_2

As a parent as far as I'm concerned its none of my business why my child isn't invited but both weddings where this has happened I was phoned prior to the invites going out to tell me which helped with organising child care so I would make it clear myself if I were you.

edited to add DFC's wording sounds pretty good to me.

fluffyb

We were once invited to a family wedding that did not include our 3 children.They were invited to the evening only. Since we were traveling about 200 miles and staying overnight and all the family were going this meant we would not be able to go and we had to declne the invitation. The couple were more upset about us not being there so back tracked and invited us all.
I would happily have paid for my childrens meal if it meant we could all go to the whole event.

I guess it depends how close you are and how much you want them to be there.

All our normal babysitters were going to the wedding so we were stumped!!

Noctu

Just to add.. my cousin has split up from her husband and didn't bring the children when she came up for my 21st birthday do (he looked after them) so hopefully it wouldn't be too much hassle, her parents have also split up so even if cousin & husband are back together perhaps her mum would look after them. Fingers crossed it'll be ok!