Depression Support Thread

beachbeth

whitevanwoman wrote: »

Every emotion you must be feeling at the moment is perfectly ok to feel - I think pet owners find it harder to admit to the depth of their grief for fear that people will not understand or be dismissive of their feelings. I was really surprised to find so many sympathetic people - including my boss, my mechanic and even the shop assistance who asked me if I was ok when I burst into tears in the pet food aisle.

Thanks for putting this. Its what I try to tell myself. My mum is the sort of "pull yourself together" sort of person and doesn't like people showing emotion and I grew up thinking it was wrong to feel so upset and to cry. It always made me wonder if I felt things more deeply than anyone else and I felt that there was something weak about me. However, I have learned over the years that it isn't weak and that everyone gets deeply upset about bereavement, animal or human, and its natural to feel awful and to cry.

I have been telling my younger daughter this too as she is very upset. Ive said that she will soon feel a bit better and will be able to think about our lovely girl without getting upset and that its natural to feel this way. I still have it at the back of my mind though that Im being self indulgent and weak because this is how my mum always made me feel whenever I got upset as a child.

beachbeth

chardanna wrote: »

Just an update on me too.... Spoke to Occ health finally - Useless!!
Just told me what I already know & first Q she asked was Why are you depressed? - Just made me think Shows how much you know!

Mwah x

When I was first diagnosed with depression it seemed that everyone asked me why! I think they wanted me to say "well such and such happened and its caused me to be like this". I think too that if they could put it down to an actual event then they could be assured that I would soon get over it. Telling people I didn't know why I was depressed and that it was just one of those things wasn't a good enough answer for most people.:rolleyes:

shazrobo

morning all, got an appointment to see gp this morning, and nervous, hate having to say how i am feeling and why, been putting this appointment off for ages, was supposed to go at the end of december. i am also in quite a lot of pain, in my hip i think it may be arthritis, as i already suffer from it in other joints, so will mention it to him, whilst i am there.
have got josh off school too, as he see's his pychiatrist this afternoon, so not looking forward to taking him either, as obviously i have to discuss josh with the doctor, and josh hates that, but how else can the doctor see what he is like without being honest, the fact josh was excluded from school twice last week, because of his problems, needs discussing, and i know josh will kick off cos he hates me tellign anyone what he's been like

hugs all
shaz xxx

rosepink1984

Thinking of you Shaz, hope things go well with Dr. Just try to be honest, he is there to help you and he can't do that if you aren't open about how you are feeling and how things are affecting you. I know it's hard to do, but give it your best shot. Have you ever thought about writing down how you feel and giving it to your GP to read?
Beachbeth - I know what you mean, I get that when I tell people I suffer from depression. If they ask why I usually just say it's clinical, the chemicals in my brain went wrong and it's hard for my brain to produce happy emotions. They are usually satisfied with that. There were events that triggered off this latest bout of depression in 07, but I don't always want to go into it all, and I am just prone to depression regardless so I don't think those things were the cause, just the trigger.
I've got to go out today (groan) it's my day off but work want me to pop in because they are taking piccies for new ID cards. I really just want to stay in today, but have to go or else it means going to the other office which is even further away another day. I'm going to make the effort to put makeup on as the photo will be on my ID for a while, but I just can't summon up the energy to wash my hair. It's not too bad, just a bit limp because of the rain yesterday, it'll do. Suppose I'd better go and get dressed and go. Will buy chocolate on the way home, that's motivation to go out!

absolutebounder

beachbeth wrote: »

When I was first diagnosed with depression it seemed that everyone asked me why! I think they wanted me to say "well such and such happened and its caused me to be like this". I think too that if they could put it down to an actual event then they could be assured that I would soon get over it. Telling people I didn't know why I was depressed and that it was just one of those things wasn't a good enough answer for most people.:rolleyes:

One of the problems others have is that the diagnosis is so subjective that people find it hard to understand. The tests doctors give you are trying to equate emotions with numbers. Depression can often be triggered by one event but that doesnt mean all of it is and it doesnt mean the event has to be visible. I think a better definition would be: An inability of the brain to cope with an environment.

LadyMorticia

Went to the doctors this morning and I have two fractured ribs and bruising (how he worked that out from just poking and prodding me I'll never know!). Apparently the only thing I can do is rest and take painkillers.
I don't lke resting. It makes me feel lazy. :rotfl:

Anyway, yeah, I kinda hurt right now.
Cheer me up? :rotfl:

xx

LadyMorticia

Welcome to the thread canthinkofone.

geminilady

absolutebounder wrote: »

Interesting advice. Might suit someone financially but might also be very bad for people prone to SAD. Nature has its own body clock and the best way to reduce the effects of SAD is to synchrionise with it ie up at sunrise and bed at sunset. Not always possible with work commitments but getting as near to it as possible helps. nature realises the cold of winter takes more out of people so gives extra sleep time. Some animals even hibernate and at the end of the jay we are just animals who have given ourselves enormous problems by ignoring nature.
WVW nice to see you are sending people to sites and information written by hypnotherapists.

My reply to wvw was not advice just a suggestion based on what suits me.Obviously it may not suit wvw.It was nothing to do with finance .You say working evenings/nights would be bad for someone with with SAD but as i believe it is caused by lack of sunlight i would thing nightworkers would be able to get more if they were not working during the day.
Nature may have its own body clock but mine refuses to get up at sunrise and i certainly have no wish to do so.We will have to agree to disagree in this matter.

absolutebounder

LadyMorticia wrote: »

Went to the doctors this morning and I have two fractured ribs and bruising (how he worked that out from just poking and prodding me I'll never know!). Apparently the only thing I can do is rest and take painkillers.
I don't lke resting. It makes me feel lazy. :rotfl:

Anyway, yeah, I kinda hurt right now.
Cheer me up? :rotfl:

xx

Poor you.

On the first day, God created the dog and said:

'Sit all day by the door of your house and bark at anyone who comes in or
walks past. For this, I will give you a life span of twenty years.'

The dog said: 'That's a long time to be barking. How about only ten years
and I'll give you back the other ten?'

So God agreed.

On the second day, God created the monkey and said:
'Entertain people, do tricks, and make them laugh.
For this, I'll give you a twenty-year life span.'
The monkey said: 'Monkey tricks for twenty years? That's a pretty long
time to perform. How about I give you back ten like the Dog did?'

And God agreed.

On the third day, God created the cow and said:

'You must go into the field with the farmer all day long and suffer under
the sun, have calves and give milk to support the farmer's family. For
this, I will give you a life span of sixty years.'

The cow said: 'That's kind of a tough life you want me to live for sixty
years, how about twenty and I'll give back the other forty?'

And God agreed again.

On the fourth day, God created man and said:

'Eat, sleep, play, marry and enjoy your life. For this, I'll give you
twenty years.'

But man said: 'Only twenty years? Could you possibly give me my twenty, the
forty the cow gave back, the ten the monkey gave back, and the ten the dog
gave back; that makes eighty, okay?'

'Okay,' said God, 'You asked for it.'
So that is why for our first twenty years we eat, sleep, play and enjoy
ourselves. For the next forty years we slave in the sun to support our
family. For the next ten years we do monkey tricks to entertain the
grandchildren. And for the last ten years we sit on the front porch and
bark at everyone.

Life has now been explained to you.

There is no need to thank me for this valuable information.
I'm doing it as a public service.

LadyMorticia

LOL AB! That certainly cheered me up.
Thank you very muchly.