how long for a reassesment?

tamsin1982

my ex and I came to a private arrangement a couple of months ago after I contacted csa, I received 1st cheque no prob but it took him nearly a week after getting paid to post me the second.

We have no contact other than minimal phone calls so I suggested setting up a SO to save him the hassle of writing cheques for next 15yrs and so id know exactly when to expect payment and he refused.

Ive found out (not from him) he's planning on moving in with his new gf within the next couple of months and I feel he is goin to try and dodge me by change of address not realising it wont work!

So what I need to know is if I was to call Csa for a reassesment how long would it take for them to contact him? and how long from them making the assesment to them getting it all set up?

Zara33

hmmm how long's a piece of string... seriously try and communicate with him before going down the CSA path honestly the CSA cause so much hassle for each party involved.

tamsin1982

Its hard communicating with someone you cant stand!!
I know the csa can be a complete nightmare but can they really be worse than me having to chase him up every month and then findin time to get to the bank ect..its a long time for me to be mucking about when it could all be much simpler and once a csa case is set up properly wouldn't it be a much smoother road?

Loopy_Girl

I agree with Zara....as me and my ex do not speak and he is very much a non compliant NRP, any assessment can take 4-6 months (usually 6 it has to be said....by which time I have usually lost the will to live!!!):o

tamsin1982

thanks loopy, guess im better off just waiting til he does as I expect then :rolleyes: why cant things ever be simple!

Loopy_Girl

tamsin1982 wrote: »

thanks loopy, guess im better off just waiting til he does as I expect then :rolleyes: why cant things ever be simple!

Christ knows!!! I would say keep on at them though. As they always have backlogs if you aren't on their back asking what is happening to your case then the risk is that it goes to the bottom of the pile.

And then phone back the next couple of days to check that what they have told you will be done, HAS been done.

Case in point - I got told 6 weeks ago that case had been passed to balliffs. Thought I would phone last week to check on progress and it turns out the case hadn't been sent! LO was granted on 1st Sept so essentially my case sat doing nothing for 10 weeks. Not a happy bunny

flateric81

an assessment could take a week to several months depending on who is carrying out the assessment and how much co-operation is received from the nrp and/or the nrps employer.

tamsin1982

I havent actually called csa to reassess, I have a case open with them but he wasnt workin at the time so was a nil assesment and ive just put it on hold as we have this private arrangement since he got a new job.

I think he would be compliant with them as hes always seemed so bothered by them and used to make threats about if I ever contacted them so must be scared of them?

I know who his new employer is thanks to his open facebook profile so at least if he didnt comply id have that ready to hand!

most of you may think im mad but Ive waited 3.5yrs for two payments, both less than what id get from csa if he was on minimum wageso whats another few months or a year at worst!?

I feel like hes making all the rules and is in control of part of my life again and I cant rely on someone as unreliable as him!

what gets me most is when I call he never asks how his kid is, surely he should want to know about the person the money is supporting?

SmileyG_2

tamsin1982 wrote: »

I havent actually called csa to reassess, I have a case open with them but he wasnt workin at the time so was a nil assesment and ive just put it on hold as we have this private arrangement since he got a new job.

I think he would be compliant with them as hes always seemed so bothered by them and used to make threats about if I ever contacted them so must be scared of them?

I know who his new employer is thanks to his open facebook profile so at least if he didnt comply id have that ready to hand!

most of you may think im mad but Ive waited 3.5yrs for two payments, both less than what id get from csa if he was on minimum wageso whats another few months or a year at worst!?

I feel like hes making all the rules and is in control of part of my life again and I cant rely on someone as unreliable as him!

what gets me most is when I call he never asks how his kid is, surely he should want to know about the person the money is supporting?

Evening...

I'm a non resident father. Fortunately the split between me an my ex was amicable and I count myself very fortunate to have a good relationship with both her and my daughter.

My ex was advised to contact the CSA, when we spilt. Despite having set up a private arrangement, they still treated me like a non-payer.

However, you are still entitled in law to weekly/monthly support, and maybe its time to pursue him through the CSA. Be fair to him though and acknowledge any payments he might have made since the separation, and if you are talking to him encourage him to pay whatever he can.

Good luck!

tamsin1982

Hi smileyg, up until 2 months ago id never had a penny from my ex, he has only paid me now because I went to csa and he knows going thru them would cost him more!! I wouldnt be unfair to him but need to stop being unfair to our son and to myself

unfortunatly hes not interested in our son, so other than this I have no need to talk to him