Selfishness V's Child Maintenance

Loopy_Girl

knitknack wrote: »

If that's the case he'll have no choice about the matter - they'll pay you your benefits and take money from him to cover them (the two don't match, they pay you a set amount and take from he according to what he earns). So how will he feel about paying an amount to the CSA (or whatever it's called now) and you not evening getting that amount? He sounds like a selfish ar5e!

That's incorrect. Benefits claimants can now choose to do private arrangements. Or not as the case may be. and go through the CSA or not even bother with any maintenance request if they choose.

The full amount gets paid to the PWC and she must declare it to the DWP so that her IS can be adjusted accordingly.

If the money is paid via the CSA then the same applies, they will pass on the amount given and it is up to the PWC to declare the monies.

squidge60

sounds like hes had it his way for to long go to csa.

mooma_2

Thanks for all your replies

I've already spoken to Shelter and was told there isn't much anyone can do for me as I have only lived in the council borough for 3 weeks!! And as i'm still on the tenancy agreement I am not actually homeless. They have said to try to hold out with staying here - but I have no money for things as ex is spending it all on himself. And obv all the time i'm still living with ex, I can't get any financial help.
He always makes me feel guilty to get his own way, he's so manipulating. I feel like he has used me and our daughter to get this sized flat in this good location.
I'm trying to look for a private rental that will accept DSS, but there doesn't seem to be any out there at all!

As a couple of you have suggested I think I will give my local CAB a ring to see if there is any help out there.

I won't apply for child maintenance before I have somewhere else to live anyway, as i think it costs through the CSA but is free if you get income support. But I think now that I should defo do it, even though he says he won't be able to afford it (yet he can afford to go out and blow £260 on a weekend).

I just feel so helpless and worried for my daughter.

MrsTinks

Is there anyway to get yourself taken of the tenancy agreement? Not meaning to be nasty (oh heck yes I am - whom I trying to kid!) but if you're not in the flat is there any chance he might loose it and have to "downgrade"? Well you can hope right? I would contact the organisation that you got the flat through and see what they say After all if you can't be housed elsewhere until you are off the tenancy agreement then you don't move out until you are off it! Stand your ground hun!

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Merry_Gentry

mooma wrote: »

And obv all the time i'm still living with ex, I can't get any financial help.

You can. All you have to do is prove that your relationship with your partner is over, and that you are living separate lives. It happens more now than you might think - being stuck living with someone who you are no longer with.

Separate households : cook, clean, wash, eat, sleep separately - basically be able to prove that you are not together in any way shape or form. Even if you ARE together you may be entitled to certain benefits.

Check out https://www.entitledto.com as a start, plug in all your details and take it from there. And if you can, hold out at the flat - you need somewhere safe/warm for you and your child, especially with winter on it's way.

kelloggs36

And it does NOT cost anything to apply to the CSA so you have nothing to lose. Firstly though, you need to make a claim for Income Support - be prepared to have somebody come and vist you as you need to be assessed as to whether you are properly separated. Once you have that decision, you can apply to the CSA. Then you need to declare his payments to Income Support and they will deduct the difference and let you keep the first £20 per week making you that much better off. In the mean time, look for alternative accommodation but do NOT move out - you are on the rental agreement meaning you have as much of a right to be there as he does.

laurenjs88

Dont dont dont dont dont move out!!

I left the flat i had with my daughters dad and it was the worst mistake i made!

Council wouldn't house me, i had to move back in with my parents and im now renting a really scummy private flat.

Do as the others have said, move into the second bedroom with your little one.

Also i believe if you happened to come home and find the house locks had been changed as your still living there its not a criminal offence to smash windows etc..

Might be a plan just before you leave... LOL

McKneff

Its probable that he was only given the 2 bedroom flat because of you and the baby. Had he been single he would have been given a 1 bedroom one.
So you have as much right to stay in the property as he has, even moreso
if yu are the main carer for your child. Stand your ground and tell the selfish !!!!!! to take a hike and tell him you are going through the CSA for his maintenance.

akane_2

Loopy_Girl wrote: »

He'll automatically have it if he is named on the birth certificate.

He may have automatic Parental responsabilty but you can still change the babies surname and take the child out of the country.

Go straight to your nearest job centre or benefits office and apply for income support. also haggle about how much he pays you in the mean time you say £250 he says £150 so ask for £200.
From what you have said about him he sounds a right Brastard that you can't trust one bit so if i was you i would.
Contact the benefits office.
Don't move out ,as your name is on the tennancy agreement its your flat as much as his.
If he starts any trouble call the police, 9 times out of 10 he will have to leave the flat.
What's the chance he will keep his word about paying you maintenance ? also if he pays you more than you tell the benefits office he could inform them so he would have a hold on you.