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For those of you with kids and have split up with OH

doodledo_2
doodledo_2 Posts: 4,676 Forumite
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I am after some advice.

I am trying to get the financial side of my split sorted and I just don't know what to do?

My OH wants us to stay in the house so we can keep some normality for my little girl and she doesn't lose her school place.

Now I could just split all the finances half and ask for that amount but part of my worries he will have enough to sort himself out a new place. Please don't tell me to "sod him" lol as I want an amicable easy split to ensure my daughter is as uneffected as p ossible.

What bills should he contribute to??

I just feel so :huh: just not a position I ever dreamt I would be in :cool:
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  • kazwookie
    kazwookie Posts: 14,341 Forumite
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    Make him contrubute to all off the bills. and half the house work.
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  • doodledo_2
    doodledo_2 Posts: 4,676 Forumite
    kazwookie wrote: »
    Make him contrubute to all off the bills. and half the house work.


    He didn't do half the housework whilst he was here lol.
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  • SamanthaA
    SamanthaA Posts: 345 Forumite
    But think I would ask for half mortgage, as he wants you to stay for DS and not downsize to something you can afford!

    Everything else(house wise) will reduce/or stay the same where ever you go, except maybe ctax.

    Edited to add that I read this that HE was leaving, you & DS staying in house.
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  • LilacPixie
    LilacPixie Posts: 8,052 Forumite
    I have not been there but I would imagine it would depend on his and your incomes.

    I personally think he should be paying at least 50% of the mortgage plus insurances. And maintanence for your daughter
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  • mbaz
    mbaz Posts: 895 Forumite
    SamanthaA wrote: »
    But think I would ask for half mortgage, as he wants you to stay for DS and not downsize to something you can afford!

    Everything else(house wise) will reduce/or stay the same where ever you go, except maybe ctax.
    You'll get 25% off council tax (single person discount)
  • SamanthaA
    SamanthaA Posts: 345 Forumite
    mbaz wrote: »
    You'll get 25% off council tax (single person discount)


    I ment that with the 25%, it depends where you are & where you are prepared to move to.
    Band A houses are much cheaper than a C, which is cheaper agin than a H, its all proportional.
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  • Gemmzie
    Gemmzie Posts: 14,876 Forumite
    Sorry to hear about the split :(

    I think 50% of the mortgage is fair if you're staying put.

    Are you both going to remain living in the house?
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  • doodledo_2
    doodledo_2 Posts: 4,676 Forumite
    No just me and my daughter. He is currently with his parents.
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  • Gemmzie
    Gemmzie Posts: 14,876 Forumite
    Then definitely 50% of mortgage and some maintenance for you little one. I'd check entitledto as well to see which benefits you'll be entitled to as sometimes you're better off claiming less maintenance as they take it off you anyway.
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  • doodledo_2
    doodledo_2 Posts: 4,676 Forumite
    Not sure if I'll get any more benefits as I think my wages are too high. I'll definately have a look though.
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