Where do I start

claire32_2

im due to br soon and to be honest i dont feel good about my self and seem to take it out on my oh, i don't mean too, he has been a rock for me,i just cant seem to stop crying, its as if i walling in it, maybe I am, i have my good days, today is a bad day, i am angry at myself formost as i got into this mess due to a shopping addiction(to make my self better hmmm!). he had taken full control of accounts which is fine, i'm glad he has but i feel like ive lost my self respect too, I dont know who I am as a person anymore, and Im scared that if I carry only feeling like this, im gonna end up poorly and a divorcee

stillscared

hi there claire i went bankrupt on the 15th oct and still feel bad its a gradual thing i think and so ive been told on here. i took lots of it out on my husband and he took it all and it will get better he has to understand that you are under alot of stress at the moment and you have to vent it somehow

lxpeanut

Claire try to focus on the fact you are now trying to put things right rather than what you've done wrong in the past. I know a lot of us on here will have felt the same as you at some point and its a long an emotional journey trying to sort your debts out. If things get really bad go talk to your GP it sounds like at the very least you need to talk to a counsellor to get your thoughts straight.

claire32_2

I have been to GP already and she has referred me as councellors are very few and far between and ones ive managed to get i cant afford to pay them, so I shall just wait and see, i feel bad on my OH as i struggle to open up to him, I think thats been my problem since day one, he suggesting starting up on this forum as it has helped him since all of it came to light, that was a month since, so I have joined today as I cant be on my own any longer.

tommo20

Hi Claire,

Welcome.
So many on this site have been where you are now and come out the other side. The actual process of BR does at least get you somewhere in the end but the emotional stuff can take a toll.
At the moment that extra effort required to 'be normal' can be hard to find.
I can honestly say that when you get through with the Court and O.R most of the tension in your life will quickly fade, your perspective will return and you will have the strength to deal with more important things.
Hang in there.
Good luck

DON79

Hi,

just wanted to say welcome and that you will find good friends and advice on here. People are really helpful so feel free to ask any questions you like and someone on here usually has the answer.