Company Directors & CSA

chriszzz

I think ppl are letting their own experiences cloud what csa is all about, csa is about collecting maintenance from nrp wether male or female.

Every pwc/nrp have a story to tell wether good or bad, there is too many bitter ppl and thats both pwc and nrp. No two cases are the same.

The csa is about money and thats all, its not interested what pwc/nrp are doing to their children, thats another matter.

Until the law changes there is nothing much nrp can do, (which I do sympathise with how some nrp are treated, by the state and the pwc). Maybe if there was a fairer system then maybe nrp wouldnt protest so much.

On the otherside I do sympathise with the pwc who is left holding the child/ren (so to speak) and maybe if the nrp was fair then maybe the pwc will be more flexible.

So until there is a fairer system all round, looks like you are all going to be battling alot longer yet!1

In the meantime I feel sorry for all the children who are caught up in their unwillingness or selfish parents.

kelloggs36

speedster wrote: »

tosh.

too many money grabbing PWC's who get greedy. just like my ex.

greed is an ugly emotion, and coupled with spite, makes it even more dispicable.

Spite can happen on both sides - you have experienced it from your female ex and I have experienced it on mine.

speedster

kelloggs36 wrote: »

Spite can happen on both sides - you have experienced it from your female ex and I have experienced it on mine.

agree with you there.

but what everyone fails to see is that the more than generous benefits system in place in this country ensures that basic needs are met. roof over head, water, electric, food and clothes.

pity the same cant be said for the nrp's who are losing 40% of their wages. there is no help for them. they are given no help.

the only poverty in this country is caused by selfish single parents who spank their benefits on fags and vino. i wish i had no rent, no council tax, no prescription charges, no dental charges and a lump sum in my hand every week.

i myself was on benefits a few years back, and i can assure you it is easy enough if you have half a brain and can budget properly and live accordingly. ie. not spend £80 a week on fags and booze. buy fresh food instead of ready meals and actually prepare a family meal instead of take aways. charity shops, boot sales, freecycle and ebay cut your costs down considerably too.

in fact, i found it incredibly easy.

kelloggs36

That's true - only issue is that not all single parents are on benefits - I wasn't when I was a single parent, and there was no such thing as tax credits then. I qualified for a whole £1 per week famil y credit and got no help with my housing costs as I had a mortgage (left by my ex for me to pay even though on less than 7k per year the mortgage was more than my salary). It was very, very tough. Didn't help that he refused to pay any maintenance which would have helped enourmously.

Dam_2

Please read and tell me your thoughts you might just be able to help. (It's a long story lol). I was a ‘played’ sperm donor with no rights and now I want to see my son and cant because CSA take all my money!

I was in a relationship with a girl who I later found out is not a nice person. She got pregnant too my 'now' 5 year old son who I have never seen or had anything to do with because of her. Now I’m paying a fortune while trying to support my newly born son and mother on one income.

We were 'apparently' in a relationship for approx 6 months when she fell pregnant to my excitement. I was 19 at the time she was 23 and as soon as she found out the baby hadn't miscarried I never seen her again. I later found out that she had left me and gone back to her ex, a long-term boyfriend who had been proven to have one less chromosomes or something in his sperm which caused miscarriages in their previous pregnancies.
I was supposed to meet her on the Friday night to go to pictures which I organised that morning with her. Later that day I tried to phone her and her phone was off so I went to her mums and much to my surprise she was not there. I asked her mum and they said that they hadn't heard from her but new she had been talking to her ex. I hung around and she never turned up.
I phoned and phoned and a couple of days later her phone was on and her ex answered. He threatened me and told me it wasn't my baby and never would be (the cheeky !!!!!!!).

5 years later I got a letter from CSA saying she claims I'm the father and they would presume I was until I prove otherwise. So I told them I wasn't on the birth certificate and someone else has happily signed it knowing he can’t have kids and that he was the father. But no good old CSA tell me that I need a DNA test. This i had done as i was left with no option, they would of presumed i was anyway and took payments straight from my work..

This !!!!! has now got with another man (one of many) and got married and now moved to RHYL, CSA don't even know what my sons name is as its different on every letter I receive.
I can’t see my son because my rights were taken away when she never turned up on that Friday and she has moved away to make it near impossible to see him. I don't know where she lives; CSA won’t give me his or her address so I can give it to a solicitor which I can’t afford anyway. They are also taking £135 a week from my wage and what I have left is nothing after my mortgage bills etc.

I want to pay for my child not her and her husband to have a better life. They have two incomes and probably benefits where I have only one income, a fianc!e and a new baby boy with no help from anyone. My newly born son brings my payments down by £10 a week.

Thanks for reading

thenewwife

Having married a man with children from a previous mariage I find the CSA really quite harsh!! My husband has taken on my son lock stock and is happy to pay for the children he no longer lives with, however we have recently had a baby and the CSA take neither the fact he supports my son or the fact we have a new baby into account. Each time we try to better our lives we hit a brick wall with extra tax and extra CSA. No one seems to care that the ex wife was left all the money and car etc that they made a whilst together leaving my husband in debt, is now remarried, has god knows how many holidays a year, Tummy tucks, personnel trainners , new cars and a far better lifestyle than we will ever be able to achieve whilst paying for her to it. Perhaps if the CSA were fair to both parents there wouldn't be som many men trying to evaide payments. All this and the CSA fail to get my ex husband to pay a penny for the son he left behind. It is all wrong and I do feel for those who's ex's don't pay but I do see why so many people do their best not to pay. The CSA is unfair to the NRP.

thenewwife

100 percent agree!! My husband saved ten pound a month when we had our daughter yet her children need 100 pound a week, makes no sense lol!!

Darlyd

Dam wrote: »

Please read and tell me your thoughts you might just be able to help. (It's a long story lol). I was a ‘played’ sperm donor with no rights and now I want to see my son and cant because CSA take all my money!

I was in a relationship with a girl who I later found out is not a nice person. She got pregnant too my 'now' 5 year old son who I have never seen or had anything to do with because of her. Now I’m paying a fortune while trying to support my newly born son and mother on one income.

We were 'apparently' in a relationship for approx 6 months when she fell pregnant to my excitement. I was 19 at the time she was 23 and as soon as she found out the baby hadn't miscarried I never seen her again. I later found out that she had left me and gone back to her ex, a long-term boyfriend who had been proven to have one less chromosomes or something in his sperm which caused miscarriages in their previous pregnancies.
I was supposed to meet her on the Friday night to go to pictures which I organised that morning with her. Later that day I tried to phone her and her phone was off so I went to her mums and much to my surprise she was not there. I asked her mum and they said that they hadn't heard from her but new she had been talking to her ex. I hung around and she never turned up.
I phoned and phoned and a couple of days later her phone was on and her ex answered. He threatened me and told me it wasn't my baby and never would be (the cheeky !!!!!!!).

5 years later I got a letter from CSA saying she claims I'm the father and they would presume I was until I prove otherwise. So I told them I wasn't on the birth certificate and someone else has happily signed it knowing he can’t have kids and that he was the father. But no good old CSA tell me that I need a DNA test. This i had done as i was left with no option, they would of presumed i was anyway and took payments straight from my work..

This !!!!! has now got with another man (one of many) and got married and now moved to RHYL, CSA don't even know what my sons name is as its different on every letter I receive.
I can’t see my son because my rights were taken away when she never turned up on that Friday and she has moved away to make it near impossible to see him. I don't know where she lives; CSA won’t give me his or her address so I can give it to a solicitor which I can’t afford anyway. They are also taking £135 a week from my wage and what I have left is nothing after my mortgage bills etc.

I want to pay for my child not her and her husband to have a better life. They have two incomes and probably benefits where I have only one income, a fianc!e and a new baby boy with no help from anyone. My newly born son brings my payments down by £10 a week.

Thanks for reading

£135 per week?:eek:
Do you mean per month? That is about right surly? He is your son after all.. If you want access then contact a solicitor, some give you first half hour free. Or try CAB which are free.

Darlyd

thenewwife wrote: »

Having married a man with children from a previous mariage I find the CSA really quite harsh!! My husband has taken on my son lock stock and is happy to pay for the children he no longer lives with, however we have recently had a baby and the CSA take neither the fact he supports my son or the fact we have a new baby into account. Each time we try to better our lives we hit a brick wall with extra tax and extra CSA. No one seems to care that the ex wife was left all the money and car etc that they made a whilst together leaving my husband in debt, is now remarried, has god knows how many holidays a year, Tummy tucks, personnel trainners , new cars and a far better lifestyle than we will ever be able to achieve whilst paying for her to it. Perhaps if the CSA were fair to both parents there wouldn't be som many men trying to evaide payments. All this and the CSA fail to get my ex husband to pay a penny for the son he left behind. It is all wrong and I do feel for those who's ex's don't pay but I do see why so many people do their best not to pay. The CSA is unfair to the NRP.

He SHOULD pay for his kids.

If he has other dependants living with him, the amount that is paid for his other kids should be evaluated. You need to let them know change of circumstances.

Mrs_Arcanum

thenewwife wrote: »

Having married a man with children from a previous mariage I find the CSA really quite harsh!! My husband has taken on my son lock stock and is happy to pay for the children he no longer lives with, however we have recently had a baby and the CSA take neither the fact he supports my son or the fact we have a new baby into account. Each time we try to better our lives we hit a brick wall with extra tax and extra CSA. No one seems to care that the ex wife was left all the money and car etc that they made a whilst together leaving my husband in debt, is now remarried, has god knows how many holidays a year, Tummy tucks, personnel trainners , new cars and a far better lifestyle than we will ever be able to achieve whilst paying for her to it. Perhaps if the CSA were fair to both parents there wouldn't be som many men trying to evaide payments. All this and the CSA fail to get my ex husband to pay a penny for the son he left behind. It is all wrong and I do feel for those who's ex's don't pay but I do see why so many people do their best not to pay. The CSA is unfair to the NRP.

Would it be worth investigating adoption of your son by OH? Seems like the CSA will presume your son is being supported in some way by your ex so won't make any allowance for the fact your OH does.