Halfway to Freedom!!

skylight

Well, perhaps not quite as severe as that!

But I am halfway to Automatic Discharge! :T:T I have just under 6 months to go now and I cannot believe it has gone so fast.

I am posting this really for Newbies - there is light at the end of the tunnel (you can buy yourself a new bulb out of your surplus :rotfl:).

I am one of the lucky few. I didn't own my own home, had no assets and kept my car through a surprising stroke of luck. I have still had days where I have wanted to scream, DCA's still chasing and ignoring, my local council who didn't know the law on over-payments (they do now!) and minor frustrations. But these cannot equate for overall sense of relief. The weight that has gone. The nights I can now sleep through (barring a randy OH.....:o), the DCA's I can tell to get stuffed and the distinct lack of rainforests pouring through my letter box.

Yes - it was a life changing decision that I knew would affect me for some time to come. Like right now I am suffering - I desperately need a new people carrier and simply cannot have one, no savings and cannot get a loan, nor can OH.. I even looked at the possibility of getting a new sub-prime credit card and paying it off monthly and backed off quickly when I realised that actually I still wasn't strong enough yet - nearly, but not quite. I am stuck in a 2-bed house with (almost) 5 kids and will never move because we cannot afford to - rents are too high and a mortgage is soooo far out of our reach now. That chokes me, that my kids are paying for my mistake. Although they have never known any different and I do love them lots to make up for it! But they cannot go to Thorpe Park on a whim or even a McDonalds without planning for it.

But nearly there. 5 months, 4 weeks to go! It gets easier. And its not horrific! No-one comes round to brand your forehead with UNCLEAN or tie you up and drag you naked round the streets. There is no prision but its not a bed of roses either.

mclachlan4321

I would agree with you, it isnt as bad as you think when you first contemplate the dreaded BR, I didnt sleep for nights feeling like a leper.

I am only 5 weeks to go until AD but it seems to be taking ages now...

betterlatethannever

skylight wrote: »

or tie you up and drag you naked round the streets. quote]

:eek: You mean that Richard lied to me when he said part of being Br was that he had to drag me around naked:eek: the rat!!;)

Glad its all going ok for you :T nice post that should help to reassure newbies.

skylight

betterlatethannever wrote: »

:eek: You mean that Richard lied to me when he said part of being Br was that he had to drag me around naked:eek: the rat!!;)

Definitely lied! :rotfl: I think you should get those photos back pronto!

dalip

I have to say that as soon as i read that bit about being dragged round naked i thought of BLTN. Your reputation preceeds you girl;)

Good post skylight.:T

MammaCas

Hiya Sky

You know what...the people with grown up kids I know that have 'had everything' .the kids don't appreciate stuff half as much as the ones that have been brought up 'frugally'...My mum came from 7 kids, absolutely skint, all ended up working hard, having beautiful houses, no debts....looked after their things.

I live in an area where there are lots of families with big houses, nice cars, private plates, kids get handed money at the drop of a hat....nothing is a 'treat' or a surprise....

I'm sure your kids will be fine. Don't beat yourself up that you can't give them everything. Your love and attention are far more important
xx