Vent

Apple_2

I don't care if this is unsupportive - I just need to let some steam out.

My O/H has the debts. Today I'm angry with him. Yesterday he got upset when a 'creditors notice' arrived. What does he expect ? We've already talked through what we're going to do and have a plan. Every time a letter comes he says ' it's me with the debts, I'm just saying it's not a pleasant thing, that's all '.

Well it's not pleasant for me either. I've done his P&L's, his Tax Returns, Spoken to the Collector, spoken to the Inspector, written about a dozen times to each of his unsecured creditors, researched the situation via's websites, Nat Debtline, CAB etc. He should be doing this *hi*, not me. But he's no good at it. He's earning and paying the I.R. - that and complaining are his two contributions to the situation.

And he's still reckless with money. It shouldn't be my job to say 'no we can't' , 'we can't afford it' etc. He should KNOW this.

I know he's worried about the debts but I honestly think I'm more worried. I must be stupid.

In my mad moments, I think kicking him out would solve all the problems. Then sanity returns and I know that's not what I want. We are dealing with the debt. He is working. It will get better.

I'm just angry with him today. And I needed to vent in a 'safe' place because I can't say all this to him. He's knackered from work and doing all he can.

Harassed_2

Well, at least you're getting it off your chest here. Is it possible that you could make a joint appointment with a money advisor at the CAB? Hearing some sense from a third (unconnected) party might help drum some sense into him?

All the best.

honey

(((Big Hug)))

You've got a plan, it WILL get better.

Keep your chin up xxx

Jen_Jen_5

give him a kick too while hes asleep, he wont know and youll feel better too
;-)