Job dilemma. Your thoughts please

delboypass

take the new job...sound slike you hate your old job anyway

new faces, new role, new challenges..new perspective on life...

JonathanA

Normdeplume

You say in one of your responses above that you're not sure you're worth a 20% pay increase. You may not be sure, but the person who has offered you the job clearly thinks that you have the skills and abilities to do the job well, otherwise they would have offered to someone else.

At the end of the day, you have to go with the job that you believe you will make you happy, we spend a long time at work and if you're in a job that you don't enjoy, then it feels like it is even longer. But, and there is always a but. If you stay with the 'safe' option, do you think you may regret it, or later down the line think to yourself, "what if?".

The other question to ask is will you be working directly for the person that interviewed you? If so, remember, that they are putting their faith in you, and they will want to do everything they can to make sure you are successful in your new job, as that will reflect well on them since they made the decision to bring you into the company in the first instance.

Only you can decide what is best for you. Money is only one part of it, you need to consider your health and happiness. 3 months is only 13 weeks, I'm sure that unless you did something monumentally silly, you would get through that probation period - is the notice period then also 3 months?

I've always found people to be very friendly and helpful when I've changed jobs and whilst I've missed old work colleagues, I've soon made new ones.

Good luck in your decision.

Ches

I hate change so I would stay in the 'safe' job. TBH I only ever worked to live not lived to work so I didn't care too much if the job was boring as long as it allowed me to earn the money I needed. (now retired). Why add to your worries. If you worry about paying off your debt does it really matter what job you do (within reason of course, but you don't soulnd as if you actually hate your present job) to enable you to do that. My happiness (if you could call it that) came from earning the money to be able to live well outside of work. Being 'woopee' happy at work wasn't much of a requirement.

normdeplume

Thank you so much all for your thoughtful replies. I appreciate your insights.

Ches - I don't hate my job, you're right. I like the people around me (though many of them want to leave!) and feel valued and trusted. It takes time to rebuild those links in a new job. I'm naturally cautious in life - if not in spending!

JonathanA - Yes, the people who hired me would be would be ones I'm answerable to. They're keen to have me, but I live in fear of being 'found out'. I once took a job which paid more than I previously had and was coming home with stress rashes and so on. The chap I'd be working with is gentle and nice, which is a plus.

But in any event I might have to move just to keep the banks at bay until I can downsize. I wonder if they, in the end, will make the final decision for me.

mummytofour

Good luck in whatever you decide, I know how hard it can be to change thing,I am no good at all about making choices and the worst part in the fear of the unknown but life is a challenge and sometimes we have to change things because they cant stay the same forever.

mrtoybox

Reading between the lines it sounds as though you are settled in your present job but just have the 'grass is greener' syndrome. Yes the money would be great from the new job but with the debts you mentioned are you actually going to see any of it or would it just get swallowed up with the other bills.
As a rule the more you earn the more you spend so focus on finding a career that fits your lifestyle.
Hope this helps
Paul

JonathanA

Could you meet with your 'new' manager and outline some of the concerns you have, asking them what training / support would be available to you to ensure you are able to do the job properly and to the best of your ability/

That way, you may get a better feel for how realistic it is.

Smashing

Difficult. How do you respond to pressure? Would the knowledge of a 3-month probation period excite and motivate you to do everything you can to make it work, or would it bring more stress and would the pressure (both external and internal) just add to the worry of your financial situation?

normdeplume

Just an update for those kind enough to reply.

The issue was taken out of my hands as my bank refused to pay my rent, so it meant I ended up with an interest-free loan from my existing employer. I didn't ask for it; the CFO volunteered it once he asked me why I had to know how much a projected payrise would be. I suppose in some senses that's a sign of me being valued.

Now it's happened the way it has, I feel almost relieved. And I guess the fact that the job situation hasn't changed means I can focus on my debts more.