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    • PhilE
    • By PhilE 16th Sep 17, 12:16 AM
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    Neighbours guests using my drive without my permission.
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    • 16th Sep 17, 12:16 AM
    Neighbours guests using my drive without my permission. 16th Sep 17 at 12:16 AM
    Probably not a big deal for some, but I don't like it. This evening I was doing a repair on my front porch when one of the neighbors guests used my drive to reverse in, right in front of me.

    Was very tempted to go straight round the neighbors. The guest could of been visiting one of two houses. One house has neighbors who have been excellent, and I didn't want to trouble them as the husband is a nervous type.

    The other neighbor is rather like her dog, barks at anything all day long if its not sitting there looking nervous. Even look in her direction and she's ready to be on the offensive.

    The easiest solution would be to install a telescopic post or cheaper folding one. Adds a measure of security also.

    The folding ones start at £20, telescopic £75. Id like something strong enough to leave a good dent, should someone be careless enough to use my drive with them in place. Suggestions welcome.
    Last edited by PhilE; 16-09-2017 at 12:25 AM.
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    • tired dad
    • By tired dad 16th Sep 17, 12:26 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 12:26 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 12:26 AM
    Personally, I think your overeacting. Your neighbour has no control over where or how a visitor drives.
    • PhilE
    • By PhilE 16th Sep 17, 12:34 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 12:34 AM
    I'm not asking for opinions on how I should feel about my private land being used by others.
    • stator
    • By stator 16th Sep 17, 12:45 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 12:45 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 12:45 AM
    You mean he reverse onto your drive, but didn't park there?
    I'd say get over it.
    Parking would be a different matter
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    • ididntgetwhereiamtoday
    • By ididntgetwhereiamtoday 16th Sep 17, 6:12 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 6:12 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 6:12 AM
    21st century problems eh?
    I didn't get where i am today by not reading moneysavingexpert.com
    • Davesnave
    • By Davesnave 16th Sep 17, 6:41 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 6:41 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 6:41 AM
    Suggestions welcome.
    Originally posted by PhilE
    Maybe consider why you feel so territorial and upset at minor infringements of your space.

    You say yourself it might not be a problem for some. That's perhaps because others have more substantial worries or, conversely, feel relaxed about life's minor irritations.

    Yes, you could install a security post and then have the joy of locking and unlocking it every time you come in or go out. Or you could probably get an electronic, motorised one if you spend a few hundred pounds more. So what? You'll have bought a solution to a problem many of us wouldn't have in the first place, which from a MSE perspective, isn't clever.
    'A society grows great when old men plant trees whose shade they'll never sit in.'
    • kelpie35
    • By kelpie35 16th Sep 17, 6:45 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 6:45 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 6:45 AM
    All I can say is thankfully I am not your neighbor.

    For goodness sake they have not parked in your driveway.
    • Grenage
    • By Grenage 16th Sep 17, 7:42 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 7:42 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 7:42 AM
    Please state your postcode, so at least the forum members can add it to their Rightmove blacklist filter.
    • JP1978
    • By JP1978 16th Sep 17, 7:45 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 7:45 AM
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    • 16th Sep 17, 7:45 AM
    You mean he reverse onto your drive, but didn't park there?
    I'd say get over it.
    Parking would be a different matter
    Originally posted by stator
    Everything has a finite life - including the tarmac/block paving/flagstones that the driveway is made of. More use it gets, the less time it will last.

    I will give testament that its annoying - we share an access drive with two others, as neighbours up the road have used one of the proper turning spaces for their parking - so they don't have to use their own drive, there is limited space to now turn. So where do they all turn? Yes, in our shared drive.

    Most people granted do only reverse as far up to the footpath (council owned) and no more, their wheels do not go over. Others, DPD, Asda vans etc, have to reverse all the way into the shared access to turn around. Its annoying as I will have to pay a third of any repairs done to that area.
    • martinthebandit
    • By martinthebandit 16th Sep 17, 8:00 AM
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    If it annoys you that much put some gates up.

    'Having a word' with neighbours about it won't solve anything and could, potentially, make it much worse.

    Although my preferred option would be to mutter a few choice words under my breath about it and then get on with the rest of my life.
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    from the words Poli, meaning many
    and tics meaning blood sucking parasites


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    • Davesnave
    • By Davesnave 16th Sep 17, 8:15 AM
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    Everything has a finite life - including the tarmac/block paving/flagstones that the driveway is made of. More use it gets, the less time it will last.

    Its annoying as I will have to pay a third of any repairs done to that area.
    Originally posted by JP1978
    Many situations in life are 'unfair,' but trying to make them fair or alter others behaviour is often futile and, ultimately, self-destructive behaviour.

    I have a repairing obligation on a private road too. Some people use it much more than I do and there's at least two business users with heavier vehicles that are exempt from payment altogether. What can I do about that? Nothing, so I choose not to worry about it, especially as I can see dozens of advantages my propertyhas, which I might not find easily anywhere else..

    People can choose to value and enjoy the pleasures their home gives them, or focus on the problems owning or renting any house will surely bring.

    If the problems seem insurmountable, too annoying or too numerous, the answer might be to move, but finding a property with no problems, or easily remedied shortcomings.....well, good luck with that!
    Last edited by Davesnave; 16-09-2017 at 10:20 AM.
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    • Money_Grabber13579
    • By Money_Grabber13579 16th Sep 17, 9:35 AM
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    Just park your car at the end of your drive, so there's no room for them to turn.
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    • Laz123
    • By Laz123 16th Sep 17, 10:42 AM
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    Or invest in an Apache gunship to patrol the area.
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    • docmatt
    • By docmatt 16th Sep 17, 11:26 AM
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    Just bear in mind if you get a cheap telescopic post and someone does drive into it, you'll never get it fully down as they bend slightly. You'll end up hammering it right down and then you'll never get it back up again!

    You could always get some little gates that you can keep closed.

    I don't think the visitors are purposely using your drive, it sounds like it's a bit awkward and they have no choice.
    • J B
    • By J B 16th Sep 17, 11:45 AM
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    Start a dispute with your neighbour, then when you come to sell your house, you can declare it on the solicitors endless pointless questions list - a good way to devalue your property.

    Alternatively, keep calm and carry on!

    • boliston
    • By boliston 16th Sep 17, 12:27 PM
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    Put up a sign that says "no turning"
    i find those signs handy if i am looking for somewhere to turn
    • Strider590
    • By Strider590 16th Sep 17, 1:44 PM
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    Put up a sign that says "no turning"
    i find those signs handy if i am looking for somewhere to turn
    Originally posted by boliston
    Private roads, with those signs to show how "privileged" the residents are, if I need to turn around I'll make a beeline for one of these roads over any other and then when you get to the end of the road there's always a sign at the turning area saying "no u-turns", well if they don't like U-turns, then let's see how they handle a J-turn
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    • goodwithsaving
    • By goodwithsaving 16th Sep 17, 3:34 PM
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    I'm with the original poster on this one. It irritates the hell out of me. Can you put up gates?
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    • Biggles
    • By Biggles 16th Sep 17, 5:31 PM
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    I like the ones that place a couple of neatly painted rocks either side of the driveway entrance. I like a bit of a challenge when turning.
    • UKSBD
    • By UKSBD 16th Sep 17, 6:21 PM
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    I like the ones that place a couple of neatly painted rocks either side of the driveway entrance. I like a bit of a challenge when turning.
    Originally posted by Biggles

    Our neighbour had a couple of little wooden posts made out of 2 x 2 painted white.


    I say *had* as someone pinched them the other week
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