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Ever feel like you don't belong where you are?
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amberfinn53
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From as young as I can remember I have always wanted to go to America, always, I don't even know what triggered it, it wasn't a case of I want to go to Disney world, it was I want to visit every state.
So anyway at 21 decided I had to go, so I applied to work at a summer camp over the summer in PA. now as soon as got on the plane I felt like I was going home, to a place I have never even met.
I know this sounds weird but the second I arrived I felt at home, I made instant friends, it just felt like me. I stayed for 3 months and explored other areas too.
My kind of point to this post is that the place in PA just feels like home, I find it so hard to explain to people really, but I honestly feel like that's where I belong, that's home. Which I know sounds crazy after 3 months. I know summer camps have some what of a 'bubble' but it was just everything, the lifestyle, the people, the place, the culture.
Now I am very proud of being British, I love it, it just doesn't feel like home in the way PA did.
The best way I can explain it is where you just get to a point in your life and think this is me, this where I'm supposed to be, this is where my family will grow up and where I will grow old. You just know, again I know coming from a 21 year old it sounds bizarre.
So I wondered if this was just something that was unique to me or if anyone has found that place that the just know is home or will be one day and it just feels right? Or you just feel your in the wrong place??
Kind of long and strange thread I know but I don't think I have ever been so sure of something so really want to know if anyone here has ever had any similar experience/ stories.
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So anyway at 21 decided I had to go, so I applied to work at a summer camp over the summer in PA. now as soon as got on the plane I felt like I was going home, to a place I have never even met.
I know this sounds weird but the second I arrived I felt at home, I made instant friends, it just felt like me. I stayed for 3 months and explored other areas too.
My kind of point to this post is that the place in PA just feels like home, I find it so hard to explain to people really, but I honestly feel like that's where I belong, that's home. Which I know sounds crazy after 3 months. I know summer camps have some what of a 'bubble' but it was just everything, the lifestyle, the people, the place, the culture.
Now I am very proud of being British, I love it, it just doesn't feel like home in the way PA did.
The best way I can explain it is where you just get to a point in your life and think this is me, this where I'm supposed to be, this is where my family will grow up and where I will grow old. You just know, again I know coming from a 21 year old it sounds bizarre.
So I wondered if this was just something that was unique to me or if anyone has found that place that the just know is home or will be one day and it just feels right? Or you just feel your in the wrong place??
Kind of long and strange thread I know but I don't think I have ever been so sure of something so really want to know if anyone here has ever had any similar experience/ stories.
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My mate had the same feeling years ago, as soon as he had the money he was off, met a lady there got married and have been happy ever after and that was nearly 30 years ago.0
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My husband grew up in New Zealand, never felt he belonged there and always wanted to come to London. He came here 18 years ago, met me and is adamant he never wants to go back, despite me being the one who would love to retire out there. We're going back there for a visit soon for the first time in 12 years and he really doesn't want to go.
The only problem with the US is that it's hard to emigrate out there permanently as a Brit, but I wish you luck.0 -
I have a feeling I know where your coming from, my family and myself have all lived in the same town (a few miles from Glasgow) for years and it seems like it's the done accepted thing around here, but to me I feel like I should be in the countryside, I just feel drawn to it, and would very much like to live there instead of the "routine" it feels that has been set out for me (by fate or whatever..)
Luckily the Missus would LOVE to move to America and get a ranch
Plus, the UK is fooked... (my 2 cents)0 -
I know exactly what you mean. For me, it was Wales. I was born and lived in London until 15 years ago.
When I was about 9, my family had a holiday in Wales and I remember thinking how beautiful it was.
Roll on 30 years and my ex and I took the kids on holiday to Wales. I fell in love with the place and we took several short breaks and even looked into moving to South Wales. Unfortunately, it didn't happen. But I always felt like I was coming home when I crossed the bridge into Wales.
Roll on a few more years, ex and I split up and I met a guy who was living in Kent. Turned out he was Welsh.
And here I am now. Home, in Wales. 0 -
New York, as in Manhattan, for me! Ordinarily I hate crowds but there's something about the Big Apple that I feel an affinity with.
Might be something to do with being born in NY state even though Ive been in the UK for 40 years!0 -
If you can get over there legally, go for it. Life is too short to miss a place & possibly people, work, future. Your heart is there - check up with the US Visa/Immigration folks what your body & brain need to do to join it.
All the best!0 -
I totally get where you are coming from.. For me it's Canada I'm not sure what it is as I've not yet been lucky enough to go but I know one day I will and I probably won't want to come back to uk go with your heart0
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Yes Wales for me too.
I was not born there but moved as a baby and lived there until I was 10. We moved to another part of the country and it was never the same for me I have felt rootless ever since.
As soon as I am over the border and among the mountains I am happy Light travels faster than sound.
This is why some people seem as bright until you hear them.0 -
I don't believe I was born in the right place. I escaped as soon as I could, by moving hundreds of miles away. I did go back during holidays, out of politeness and induced guilt. I haven't been back for years and I have no intentions of going anytime soon. I always get asked by colleagues etc if I go "home" often and they look very confused when I reply "this is home for me".
Follow your dreams and don't let anyone hold you back. It might not be the easiest thing to do (US immigration is not easy to get past), and you'll need to do research in regards to work permit, health insurance etc. However, do go for it, you won't regret it 0 -
I haven't found my place yet. OH, however, fell for North Carolina when he was out there attending college for a short while, and if we could. he'd move out to the States tomorrow. I do think he fell a bit for the college 'bubble' and living out there would be very, very different, but I'd give it a go it we could. It's not likely though.0
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