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Ex husband's new tattoo
maryroberts
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Just want to let off steam about my ex-husband - I've seen a photo that has upset me somewhat, there's nothing I can do about it, but to type it out will hopefully get it out of my system.
Basically, I saw a mutual friend's photo of my ex on Facebook (aaargh!) which shows that he has a new tattoo of his girlfriend's name emblazoned across his chest!!! I must explain that he is very heavily tattooed and it's surprising that he had room for any more. His first wife's name on his chest was covered over years before I met him. He had my name on his hand and also on his ring finger - these have also been covered over now.
I divorced him over 2 years ago (because of this "girl" who he's still with) and I should be over it all by now, but seeing this photo of him with her name all over himself just made me upset and angry. I suppose I should pull myself together!
Basically, I saw a mutual friend's photo of my ex on Facebook (aaargh!) which shows that he has a new tattoo of his girlfriend's name emblazoned across his chest!!! I must explain that he is very heavily tattooed and it's surprising that he had room for any more. His first wife's name on his chest was covered over years before I met him. He had my name on his hand and also on his ring finger - these have also been covered over now.
I divorced him over 2 years ago (because of this "girl" who he's still with) and I should be over it all by now, but seeing this photo of him with her name all over himself just made me upset and angry. I suppose I should pull myself together!
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maryroberts wrote: »Just want to let off steam about my ex-husband - I've seen a photo that has upset me somewhat, there's nothing I can do about it, but to type it out will hopefully get it out of my system.
Basically, I saw a mutual friend's photo of my ex on Facebook (aaargh!) which shows that he has a new tattoo of his girlfriend's name emblazoned across his chest!!! I must explain that he is very heavily tattooed and it's surprising that he had room for any more. His first wife's name on his chest was covered over years before I met him. He had my name on his hand and also on his ring finger - these have also been covered over now.
I divorced him over 2 years ago (because of this "girl" who he's still with) and I should be over it all by now, but seeing this photo of him with her name all over himself just made me upset and angry. I suppose I should pull myself together!
If you had seen a photo of your ex, with the word 'mug' tattooed on his chest, would that have bothered you?
(Please feel free to replace the word 'mug' with the word of your choice).
Ask yourself why you feel so upset and angry about this. Once you know the answer to that, you'll be in a better position to figure out how to move on from it.0 -
There is nothing more cheesy than having a tattoo of a CURRENT partner's name anywhere on your body.
Want to be original? Don't get a tattoo!DEBTFREE AND PROUD!!0 -
Seems you may still be harbouring some feelings for him deep-down. (If you care about him having his new flame's name tattooed on his chest.) Having a tattoo like that sounds pathetic to me, but if you're still stinging after 2 years, then you have issues. May be a good idea to close down facebook too. The temptation to try and see what you ex is up to will be too strong.0
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Thanks - yes I know he is pathetic, he's 58 for gawd's sake, and she is 25!!! I don't have feelings for him, but I do still have anger against her as I believe she was the major reason for our marriage breaking up. She sent me some very hurtful texts at the time (in broken English) indicating that he was some sort of prize that she had won, and I was such a terrible wife!
Anyhow, it dragged on for ages, we had to sell the house & then I moved back to the UK (they are still abroad). So I have no desire to get back with him, I'm happy with my partner. It's just the thought of both of them deciding to obliterate my name and tattoo hers instead. Yes I know - Facebook can be a terrible thing!0 -
He's an EX .....why are you watching his f/b page? You are setting yourself up for upsets.
Block the pair of them - life is far too short to be agonising over such trivialities!0 -
He's not on Facebook - the photo appeared in my newsfeed through a mutual friend who I don't want to block. But I know what you're saying, Facebook has it's good & bad points. I'm not agonising by the way, I've got it off my chest now - excuse the pun!0
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mary, why are you still keeping tabs on your ex two years on? Hun, you really shouldn't feed your anger by reading up on his 'doings' on effbook. Why torment yourself this way? are you secretely hoping that he is going to publicly ditch his present love and declare his undying love for you? at which point either a) you have a joyful reunion or b) you kick him in the balls?
This is behaviour more suited to adolescents (sorry to be blunt - but a mature woman shouldn't be doing this).
How does your present partner partner feel about you looking up the ex on effbook? I would be worried that option a would be true! Does he know? would he be hurt if he did know?0 -
This young bit of skirt will get bored of him eventually! The novety will wear off soon enough. She will soon get with someone her own age. TRUST ME! Look in the papers when older celebrity males get with younger women, some readers comment "Its nice to see a father and daughter together"
I absolutely hate Facebook! I have permanently deleted mine. It is just full of people showing off. "Look at me, I'm pregnant" blah blah blah! "Look at me, I am sitting on the couch pouting" "Look at me taking a pic of myself, even though I have 3000 Facebook friends but we never meet up to take and tag pics of eachother!! "Look at me, I have been to the gym!" If you have found a cure for cancer and any other incurable disease, then post about it.. other than that... shut it!!DEBTFREE AND PROUD!!0 -
It won't last, none of the others have. Use your emotional energy on something productive, not the tatts slapped on a soon to be pensioner who thinks he's the oldest swinger in town..................
....I'm smiling because I have no idea what's going on ...:)0 -
My ex husband & I seperated about 2 years ago, we divorced fairly quickly.
He can tattoo his girlfriends name on every limb for all I care.0
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