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sarah7610
Old 16-07-2012, 12:21 PM
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A close friend of mine unfortunately passed away on Friday after a short battle with Leukemia.
I went to the funeral directors this morning with his sister and brother to make the final arrangements and it was explained that money was in very short supply.
The final total of the funeral is over 2000 which is just the basics, (no cars etc.) but his siblings have got to pay 975 before the funeral on Friday 20th.
It was explained that a grant can be applied for but that can take a few weeks and doesn't solve the problem of the 975.
My friend didn't own a house or have any pensions or insurance but he does have around 1500 in the bank.
How can she access this money to pay the funeral costs as she is worried she will be questioned as to why money has gone from the account after his death?
I hope I explained that ok, any advice please?

Thanks
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Old 16-07-2012, 12:28 PM
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Cant Help you with funding. But every Funeral Director should offer a basic funeral which is a lot cheaper than you are quoting. They have a habit of not telling people about these.
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My friend didn't own a house or have any pensions or insurance but he does have around 1500 in the bank.
How can she access this money to pay the funeral costs as she is worried she will be questioned as to why money has gone from the account after his death?
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As the next of kin, the sister or brother should approach the bank armed with the death certificate and the bill from the funeral directors. Almost certainly, the bank will pay 975 to the funeral directors.
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Old 16-07-2012, 12:34 PM
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As the next of kin, the sister or brother should approach the bank armed with the death certificate and the bill from the funeral directors. Almost certainly, the bank will pay 975 to the funeral directors.
This is what we did when my mum died. The bank (Santander) paid the undertaker directly out of her account.
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Cant Help you with funding. But every Funeral Director should offer a basic funeral which is a lot cheaper than you are quoting. They have a habit of not telling people about these.
At 2k, that probably IS the basic funeral.
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I would suggest you get some more quotes, ring round and specifically ask each undertaker for the cost of their most basic funeral.
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Old 16-07-2012, 12:41 PM
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I wouldnt bother shopping around.

2K is extremely cheap for a funeral.
Would have, or would've, not would of

Should have, or should've, not should of

Can I have, not can I get.
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Old 16-07-2012, 12:44 PM
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This is a basic funeral.
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Old 16-07-2012, 12:45 PM
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As the next of kin, the sister or brother should approach the bank armed with the death certificate and the bill from the funeral directors. Almost certainly, the bank will pay 975 to the funeral directors.
Funeral expenses are paid from the deceased's estate; I believe this is the only payment that can be made from the deceased's account before letters of administration or probate has been granted.

My husband's funeral is going to cost twice what the OP has been quoted, though we have not chosen the cheapest option. I would be upset if the funeral director asked me to pay up front though (mind you, this is the third one I've arranged with him and he knows his bills were settled promptly before - in both cases the deceased's bank paid the FD directly when I sent in the bill).

ETA: The FD we are using offers a basic service (crematorium) for 1,600.
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Funeral expenses are paid from the deceased's estate; I believe this is the only payment that can be made from the deceased's account before letters of administration or probate has been granted.

My husband's funeral is going to cost twice what the OP has been quoted, though we have not chosen the cheapest option. I would be upset if the funeral director asked me to pay up front though (mind you, this is the third one I've arranged with him and he knows his bills were settled promptly before - in both cases the deceased's bank paid the FD directly when I sent in the bill).

ETA: The FD we are using offers a basic service (crematorium) for 1,600.
Many funeral directors ask for the disbursements to be paid up front so it's something you should be prepared for.
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Old 16-07-2012, 1:56 PM
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I used to work in the "bereavement" team for HBOS and the bank HAS to settle the funeral expenses and should do so promptly on receipt of a death certificate and undertakers invoice.
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When my Dad died both the bank and BS said they would release money to the funeral directors to pay for the funeral. A copy of the death certificate and an invoice from the funeral directors should be enough for them to release funds to pay the 975.

We had to pay part of the fee before the funeral. This covered the cost of the crematorium, florist, etc.
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Old 17-07-2012, 7:31 PM
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When my mum died last year the funeral director wanted 1000 up front, despite the fact that they'd buried my father a few years previously. I had to borrow the money off my in- laws. The final bill which was over 5000 was paid by Santander from her account upon receipt of her death certificate and the funeral directors bill.
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Old 17-07-2012, 8:26 PM
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it is becoming the norm for them to ask for at least 1k upfront,i know someone who had to loan the money to pay the undertaker recently
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What if no one pays the money upfront?
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Old 17-07-2012, 8:53 PM
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What if there is no money in the persons account? DOes the funeral director hold the body?
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The local authority will arrange a basic funeral if no-one in the family has any money.
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