Donate for transplant or research?

I find it highly objectionable that my decision may be overidden by others after my death. Has anyone found a way round this? For example a clause in my will that disinherits if my wishes are no complied with?

This is something I've been meaning to look into, I was hoping that my organs could be used for transplants first and then what's left goes off to scientific research. I know most places want a whole cadaver but there must be a need somewhere for just "bits" even for surgery practice it should be able to be done on just some of the body if some organs have already been harvested.

I hadn't actually considered what would happen if they didn't need to use me, I just assumed they were desperate for donations because most people don't like the thought of it.

I'm not even bothered about a funeral for me, quite happy for any friends and relatives to hold a wake if they want to but I don't want any of the fuss of a full ceremony. I don't like that sort of thing while alive so don't want it when I'm dead.

You could always wean your family onto the idea by making an altrustic donation, say of a kidney?

It'll have most of the essential tests done & in your records so accelerating the process later on.

It would also give the medics clear evidence of your active intentions - the scarring is easily read & you need never worry about a misplaced donor card. Your body will already say Donor! Which may help your medics coax your family - see he's already donated one, he wanted to, chose to...

In fact, once the healthy living has really got a grip, you may be able to donate a part of your liver - it regenerates (over a couple of months, not like Dr.Who!) The slightly odder bit would be clearing the psychological screening as to why are you doing this - "training my family" may not be quite the answer they can handle.

I'll presume you're signed up with the blood donors? (Register online here)? Can't see the family grumbling about that & the tea is lovely. Bone marrow register? Both the NHS one here and the more widely known Antony Nolan one here?

Educating the wife is also doable - before the patter of tiny feet there is the possibility of donating the blood from the umbilical cord and placenta (Antony Nolan again, here) - risk free for you, her & the baby & if the first childbirth goes as is to be expected, the dear girl may need reminding how well she's done as if she can recall five things after that 48 hours she'll be doing better than I did.

Go on, sign up. Nothing's certain but death & taxes, and while there are tax avoidance schemes around, isn't it nicer to be on the other team sharing, prolonging quality, saving life?

Headstones are expensive. But so is dialysis. Give someone ten really good years & that they don't know your name & dates is immaterial - they & their families will be just so thankful.

Brain donation is a very altruistic body part to donate, and you don't need to be a super-healthy person - indeed, the more weird and wonderful neurological diseases the better, although healthy brains are also welcomed.

You sign up in advance (!) for this with the Brain Bank, but you will need to have an understanding and onside family member or friend who will contact the Bank upon your death.

The tissue is retrieved, very respectfully, within 24-72 hours of death, and your body is then available for your funeral.

My mum donated her brain to Parkinson's research, the whole event was handled very discreetly and sensitively, and when I saw her afterwards you would not know anything had happened. I received a brief report of their findings some months later.

Here's a bit more information:

https://www.mrc.ac.uk/research/facilities-and-resources-for-researchers/brain-banks/donating-brain-and-spinal-cord-tissue/

And for all aspects of donation, the Human Tissue Authority website makes informative reading:

https://www.hta.gov.uk/donating-your-body