Partner checking dating site?

Pollycat wrote: »

Comparing Facebook and a paid-for dating website is like comparing an apple and an elephant.
I may have got this wrong but I thought the whole idea of registering on a dating website was to find a partner.

Having friends and relatives comment on your photos is very different to going back into a dating website to see who may be interested in you.

No it isn't. It's not like she re-registered or continued paying a subscription, she'd already paid for a year. It's not a crime to want other peoples' opinions about yourself even if you're in a relationship. Some people here do seem to be really insecure.

Pollycat wrote: »

But it's not just 'other people's opinions'.
It's people who were (or maybe even are) potential partners.

It's strangers on a website. If she has no interest in meeting them then what's the problem?

That's twice you've mentioned insecurity when quoting my posts.
I don't know who you're directing that to but if it's me and my partner - you couldn't be further from the truth. :rotfl:

Sorry it's definitely not personal and I can't even remember that other post, I just respond to what I see written. It's just a general sense I get on this board that posters seem to be very insecure.

However, I do agree that the OP appears to be very insecure.
One of his other threads said as much.

Which is why he should be helped to overcome it and try to have faith in his new partner, instead of being encouraged to throw in the towel and give in to his insecurities.

Pollycat wrote: »

Oh believe me, I - and other posters - have tried to help the OP.
Here's one example:
http://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/showthread.php?t=5602213

So what are you doing now then? Just having fun with him?

Cat
You are really feeling pretty vulnerable about this aren't you. Your posts on other issues appear that you are a young, confident go getter.

You talk about your age, your lack of debt, your savings, your home so I am guessing (and of course it is only a feeling) that relationships are the place in your life where things have not been quite so good?

You need to jump on anyone who questions you makes it all the more clear you are fragile in this relationship. I am guessing it has taken you a while to find this perminant relationship and you are worried about it slipping away.

My advice, for what it's worth, is to step back and watch and listen. Dont question there is no need , the answers will become apparent without you jumping in with both feet.

She will either look and walk away or look and get out of your relationship you appearing demanding and insecure will not help. I appreciate you don't admit to feeling insecure but simply posting the question validates this as does your need to slap everyone on here down.

So deep breathe carry on with life and let things evolve naturally, if she is deep down unhappy with the relationship then no amount of you clinging on will make any difference.