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Money Moral Dilemma: How much should I pay my ex for her share of our flat?
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I own my flat with my ex-partner, who moved out a year ago. I'm now in the process of buying her share - do I buy her out at the current market value or the value of the property last year?
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You have enjoyed the benefit of any capital your ex has invested in the property since they left and therefore it would only be fair to calculate their share at current market value in my opinion.But there are dreams that cannot be,and there are storms we cannot weather!0
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Obviously the current value.
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she gets her percentage of the property, whatever that may be at the same you buy her out.CCCC #33: £42/£240
DFW: £4355/£44050 -
I am assuming that when she moved out last year she stopped contributing to the mortgage - if so then that must be taken into consideration. I would say you use the value of the property at the point that your partner stopped paying to agree the settlement figure.0
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Whatever you think might happen, you will get screwed.
If she hires a clever solicitor, they might allege that she contributed more to the mortgage, utility bills, living expenses, and so on.
Depending on how well you still get on with her, ask her how much she wants and be prepared to pay it, provided it is vaguely reasonable.
Unfortunately logic and proportion will probably not come into the decision.0 -
When I was in the same situation, I gave the ex his share based on the current value, minus the outstanding mortgage etc. I told him what I thought was fair and he snapped my hand off, thinking he’d have got less.0
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If both of you were paying the same amount for the mortgage and both contributed the same amount to the deposit when you bought the property then it would seem fair to buy her share out at a realistic market value at the time she ceased or ceases paying her share of the mortgage.0
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Whatever you decide remember this is somebody you loved or presumably you wouldn't have bought a place together. Good endings are important to moving on properly. No matter what happened between you, letting go and forgiveness are important for YOUR future happiness. You can afford the whole place by yourself; what is her situation, are you struggling? These questions are what makes this a MORAL dilemma.0
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Current market value unless you were paying her rent for the period you lived there without her.0
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I doubt very much that the value has gone up all that much in the past twelve months, there are regional variations in house prices, the national market seems to be slowing according to Halifax and Nationwide, so unless there are reasons why your area is special in someway (such as new road or rail infrastructure) I would say that it is pretty academic as to todays market price or last years.
Having said all that on principle it should be the current market value minus an allowance for the mortgage payments she missed as others have said.
There is an online house price valuation service - I cannot remember the name of the site - which allows you to put in your postcode and the yearly quarter (i.e. 2009 Q1, Q2 etc) you purchased your property which gives a rough valuation now based on no substantial property alterations. I would use this myself.0
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