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Is your OH a stay at home husband/BF?
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I've done it in various forms too, I enjoyed it more than he did!!! And it still seemed that I had to work out when other children could come home with ours and how to organise the rest of life ...Signature removed for peace of mind0
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DH stays at home and I work, due to redundancy and ill-health a few years ago. Though he does do some other work from home now along with looking after the children and cooking etc.
It took a good few months for us to settle naturally into the new set up. Now, it works fine and I love it, there is nothing nicer than somebody caring enough to put the kettle on as you walk in the door from work and getting a home cooked tea etc. He enjoys it and is much happier than when he was out working, and I get to walk out of the house and go to work and forget about it all for a few hours (I guess it helps I like my job and its only about 3/4 rather than full time).
He does all the cooking and childcare and some of the day to day cleaning (I still do a weekly blitz though probably from my standards rather than his reluctance!). As for DIY, he always takes charge of anything heavy going or messy and I enjoy doing the decorative bits. It works for us
This time I haven't smoked since 6th Jan 2014 and still going ok.
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Yep for over 14 years now. Good and bad points buf no choice someone needs to work.:jMay 2013 new beginnings:j0
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Our story is a wee bit dif from the above, OH took a nite job when DD was born (almost 15yrs ago) he worked nites, I worked days, for 3 yrs. It wasn't easy but it worked for us.0
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I am one most of the time (I work 1.5 days a week (when the kids are are school and playschool) and weekends) and although I enjoy it for the most part, it can cause ructions in the relationship.
I am probably overly sensitive about the way the house is and she is unhappy it's not up to her std.
The truth of the matter is, that I don't feel the need to keep the house to a std she agrees with, so at the weekends she will spend her time running round getting the house up to std, instead of spending it with the kids and me.
Or, she will spend it with me and the kids and worry the house isn't clean enough and be inwardly unhappy.
I think the crux of the matter is that we have different values to how clean the house is. Which is probably no different from most couples, just I'm in charge of it for part of the week.Freedom is not worth having if it does not include the freedom to make mistakes.0 -
He would be, but I don't earn enough to keep us all. He'll be going p/t (as will I) when I go back to work in November, which we feel is the right mix for us and our family. When we've completed our family, I will look towards focusing more on my career and let him take more of the responsibility at home.0
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Having done it for a while you can't help feel more valued as a worker bringing in a wage rather than staying at home and looking after the house. I feel that I have contributed more when I work.0
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OH lost his job at the end of last year and has only just taken on an evening cleaning job so technically he's a SAHD. he absolutely loves being home with our son and I love the housework being done, having the dinner cooked and that he gets to enjoy our son.
It makes financial sense. OH has no skills or qualifications so only works NMW jobs but he's going to look at going to college when DS starts school. We're actually better off now there's no childcare and minimal petrol to pay and I have a good, stable well paid job.2013 wins: Persil Bunny0 -
Lotus-eater wrote: »I am one most of the time (I work 1.5 days a week (when the kids are are school and playschool) and weekends) and although I enjoy it for the most part, it can cause ructions in the relationship.
I am probably overly sensitive about the way the house is and she is unhappy it's not up to her std.
The truth of the matter is, that I don't feel the need to keep the house to a std she agrees with, so at the weekends she will spend her time running round getting the house up to std, instead of spending it with the kids and me.
Or, she will spend it with me and the kids and worry the house isn't clean enough and be inwardly unhappy.
I think the crux of the matter is that we have different values to how clean the house is. Which is probably no different from most couples, just I'm in charge of it for part of the week.
Perhaps you should tell her she's not doing her job to your standard
"Growth for growth's sake is the ideology of the cancer cell" - Edward Abbey.0 -
I wish MrD was a SAHH.0
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