My Friend - PART 2 - Please Help Again!!

wigginsmum · 3 March 2006 at 4:11PM

If he's trying to rent through a letting agency, they'll want proof of income and this couple will undoubtedly be refused, so try not to panic.

Paisley_3 · 3 March 2006 at 4:16PM

elona wrote:

If you do find yourself chatting to the person dealing with the letting - I would not be surprised if your friend has quoted you as a reference without your knowlege.

That is something I've wondered and worried about - even in passing 'oh, yes, you were reccomended to us by kittykate and her OH' could do untold damage to our reputation with our letting agency and if my friend messes up the tenancy (which I'm expecting him to - I mean, he 's relying on ebay to move!!)

What do I do to check this? I certainly don't want to be seen as advocating his reckless behaviour.

Paisley_3 · 3 March 2006 at 4:21PM

wigginsmum wrote:

If he's trying to rent through a letting agency, they'll want proof of income and this couple will undoubtedly be refused, so try not to panic.

That's what I thought but not so. He's been asked to supply a guarantor of the rent (ie his parents) who would pay the rent should he scarper/go bankrupt. We never got asked for this so the letting agency must already smell a rat. Looks like they will get accepted

Doomed_Economy · 3 March 2006 at 4:33PM

I told you he'd be trying to move in with you - not far off ey?

Your problem is going to be when it does all go t*ts up - he'll be coming round to see his friendly neighbours, & expecting a place to crash when he's out on the street (of course, until this happens he'll be round at yours every day for breakfast, dinner, & tea).

I can't see any other motives for him moving next door when he could have chosen anywhere.

It might be painful but you need to tell him straight & dump him as a friend until he's facing reality & got a job.

rkh001 · 3 March 2006 at 5:25PM

Paisley

Really sorry to hear about your dilemma.

This friend of yours is not ready to be rescued. All you can do is hope that you can still be friends when the ground crumbles beneath his feet. Best not to get too stressed by his actions. With some people you can only be there for them - they need to do things their way and hopefully they learn from their mistakes. If they don't they will keep falling into the same hole in the ground and then blaming the world and his mate until they realise that they can cross the road and avoid the hole altogether. You can't make them do that.

Feel for you.

rkh001

Dora_the_Explorer_5 · 3 March 2006 at 5:31PM

a) his life will go down the pan even faster without the little reality check we do give him

To be blunt - no it won't, unless you believe you are the only ones who can 'save' him from himself. You're feeling stressed, guilty, upset, apprehensive, lied to and conned and he's as happy as a spring lamb by the sound of it. It's difficult to see how the friendship benefits you, you've already made it clear how it benefits him. Sorry, don't mean to be rude - just pragmatic.

BobProperty · 4 March 2006 at 2:18PM

I'm supposed to be looking for something on here and I see this!
I am really sorry to hear about this situation again. I can not see how the letting agency or landlord would rent to this person unless their vetting procedures are lax and/or this guy can really tell a tale.
As has already been said, I would also be worried that they want to be near you to sponge off you. OK that's being blunt, but that's what it looks like. What would worry me even more, from what you have described, is that he may have access to your post, your address and be able to use your good name to continue this fantasy lifestyle. I may be being extremely negative here, but his problems aren't yours. Don't get dragged in.

My Friend - PART 2 - Please Help Again!!

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