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Nutty Nanas' thread

candygirl
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I've noticed we have loads of parenting threads, but no Grandparents ones:(, so am starting one here:j:j.Any grandparent who has anything funny to contribute, as well as general chat about their grandkids, and rants about their kids, is free to join in :D
I have a darling Grandaughter who's nickname is Boo, she's now 10 months and absolutely adorabubble.I have her to stay over at least one night a week, and she is soo good :D:D
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  • pigpen
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    Do you actually feel like they are related to you?

    I feel very much detached from mine as though he is not even related.. and then find him as unpleasant to look after/tolerate as other peoples children.

    Of course I wouldn't let DS know he'd be devastated..
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  • candygirl
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    pigpen wrote: »
    Do you actually feel like they are related to you?

    I feel very much detached from mine as though he is not even related.. and then find him as unpleasant to look after/tolerate as other peoples children.

    Of course I wouldn't let DS know he'd be devastated..
    Lol yea I do hun.I was there when she was born, and her Mum had a bad time with ex etc, so has leaned on me a lot;)Yea Boo is like the 2nd child I never had:o:o
    I do find other peeps kids hard to tolerate though too;)
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  • pigpen
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    I feel rather bad about it actually.. my mother and sisters seem to think he is wonderful but I just cannot get past the barrier of feeling like he doesn't 'belong'... :(
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  • candygirl
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    pigpen wrote: »
    I feel rather bad about it actually.. my mother and sisters seem to think he is wonderful but I just cannot get past the barrier of feeling like he doesn't 'belong'... :(
    I know a few Nanas who aren't close to their Sons' kids, sometimes cos DILs put barriers in the way:(I can't imagine being as close to another one as this:o
    You'll just have to smile and make all the right noises at the right times:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
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  • pigpen
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    lol.. I do exactly that.. and I dread them askingg me to look after him.

    I do wonder if it is different being a sons child rather than a daughters child though.. ??

    DIL is fine, very much part of the family.
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  • candygirl
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    pigpen wrote: »
    lol.. I do exactly that.. and I dread them askingg me to look after him.

    I do wonder if it is different being a sons child rather than a daughters child though.. ??

    DIL is fine, very much part of the family.
    My Mum reckons it is, ie she can give me advice about how I look after my kid(or did do occasionally when she was little) , but not the DIL who she's scared of offending:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: I only have a DD so will never know:(:(
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  • kindofagilr
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    candygirl wrote: »
    My Mum reckons it is, ie she can give me advice about how I look after my kid(or did do occasionally when she was little) , but not the DIL who she's scared of offending:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl: I only have a DD so will never know:(:(

    I wish my MIL was scared of offending lol instead she says what she thinks and doesnt care if it offends or uspets me :(

    (Sorry I'll leave you grannys too it lol)
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  • Lotus-eater
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    I was rather hoping this was going to be a recipe thread.

    ie Nutty banana bread.
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  • candygirl
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    Lotus-eater wrote: »
    I was rather hoping this was going to be a recipe thread.

     ie Nutty banana bread.
    lol think there's a million of them already;)Sorry about your MIL, my ex MIL was a dragon too:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:
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  • snoozer
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    How about great aunts? Not that I let anyone use the "g" word in my hearing. I have also told dd I don't want to be grandma or nana. Not that she or her brother look like producing any time soon!!

    We have a great neice who is 15 months old and as cute as a button. We don't see her too often (200 miles away) but she is very affectionate and not the least bit afraid of us even though we are relative strangers.
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