Agreement that under no circumstances can any family members move in to our new home

Jowo_2 · 13 July 2009 at 5:01PM

A visitor to a property has no security of tenure, they are merely a guest. No agreement is necessary. A guest that overstays their welcome can simply be kicked out.

The solution to a potentially unwanted guest is not through a legal agreement but through strength of character.

Dave101t · 13 July 2009 at 5:02PM

trying to move in? how do you try to move in?
tell them to pi55 off.
ive been living with my fiance for 12 months and i guess im lucky (or normal) as this issue simply would never arise

maninthestreet · 13 July 2009 at 5:08PM

...and if your MIL refuses to be party to this agreement, what will you do?

Jowo_2 · 13 July 2009 at 5:11PM

Seriously, what you've got is a relationship problem, not a legal problem.

Your boyf needs to find his backbone, promise to prioritise your relationship and home and you need to be sure he can cut the apron strings.

Who you allow to visit your home, the duration of their visit and any decision to take in a lodger is entirely within your control.

googler · 13 July 2009 at 5:35PM

Ever watched Gordon Ramsay's' programmes?

He'd tell your boyfriend to reach down into his boxers, grope around and find his b8ll8cks....... or something like that. Have you shown your BF this thread yet?

Seriously, though - if you buy the house, you'll have the keys. The only way your MiL can get keys is if you give her a set. How can she 'move in' if you control the access with who you give keys to?

Barneysmom · 13 July 2009 at 5:38PM

My first thought is what a selfish couple you are.
If your mother is old and alone you wouldn't look after her? You two deserve each other, you both need to grow up.

If either of my parents become old/infirm I'd welcome them into my home without a second's thought.

Jowo_2 · 13 July 2009 at 5:47PM

Barneysmom wrote: »

My first thought is what a selfish couple you are.
If your mother is old and alone you wouldn't look after her? You two deserve each other, you both need to grow up.

If either of my parents become old/infirm I'd welcome them into my home without a second's thought.

I don't think they are selfish. Who wants to be stuck with a domineering character? It's not commonly an act in western democratic culture to look after elderly parents in your own home. If it is, its usually because both parties want it. Someone moving into a house where they are not wanted is a recipe for disaster.

silvercar · 13 July 2009 at 5:50PM

You need to grow up and stand up for yourselves. No point hiding behind legal words. Or are you afraid your BF will allow his mother to move in and over rule you?

theartfullodger · 13 July 2009 at 7:22PM

Fullofhope...

Clearly you/OH don't trust MiL.. (possibly nobody trusts MiL..)

You are clearly therefore getting involved with the wrong OH.. that the issue has come up is warning enough...

Time to find another life partner (PM me for my details...... )

Cheers!

Lodger

On second thoughts stay together, buy somewhere but don't tell anyone where it is/stop all contact!!

ella_ella_ella · 13 July 2009 at 7:51PM

Cant you just agree and then remember that you agreed

Agreement that under no circumstances can any family members move in to our new home

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