i dont want to work

ixwood · 2 March 2009 at 2:42AM

Waynetta, is that you?

pink_princess · 2 March 2009 at 2:45AM

foreign_correspondent wrote: »

thank you Pink, that is really appreciated, you are very kind. I feel like I am rapidly losing my ability to empathise though when I hear people like this, I am sure the poor kids are aware of the hostility and bad feelings held against them...

Adults have to be adults, and to rise above this stuff and take responsibility for their actions - those kids never asked to be born, and if they have a 'woman from hell' (allegedly!) as a mum, and a dad who does not give a monkeys, whose wife is continuosly moaning about how they ruin her life- I expect their self esteem is in the gutter - storing up all sorts of problems for the future.

I fear this also,we are a step family that are totally united.When i hear things like this it tears at me.
I just think some people can t put others feelings before their own.I have two daughters,oh has two children, boy and girl.Its not easy but if you enter into things,ie agree .Then you must take on board all that comes with it.Financial,emotional etc.
I feel its only human.

pink_princess · 2 March 2009 at 2:46AM

ixwood wrote: »

Waynetta, is that you?

foreign_correspondent · 2 March 2009 at 2:50AM

OP, I have just looked at your other posts and threads...

can I suggest you revisit them and see how pink princess deals with her (similar) situaton, and think about the outcomes for all involved - she seems to be making the best of a potentially tricky situation, whilst you just grumple and grouch!

In her case, respect and fairness seem to be the motivators, and she is clearly much happier than you are. Your motivation seems to be selfishness and your attitude is 'why should I?' - which is not healthy for a grow woman, and is becoming a vicious circle of unhappiness and anger.

Have you considered CBT?

pink_princess · 2 March 2009 at 2:58AM

You are so right fc,that what im trying to say.You ll only harm yourself and an innocent child .If you do blame the the ex oh,then don t take it out on the child.
Please jacklink my whole past is there in my history,read it ,it really doesn t have to eat at you or be detrimental to the child/children.

pink_princess · 2 March 2009 at 2:59AM

Goodnight,i hope you reavaluate op.
Good night fc.

lesley1960 · 2 March 2009 at 3:52PM

jacklink wrote: »

just to clarify

i am the woman
i am the wife of a man who had kids before we married
i am the wife with an ex wife from hell

So now he has two wives from hell ?

-BA- · 2 March 2009 at 6:03PM

lesley1960 wrote: »

So now he has two wives from hell ?

So it would seem. Bitterness sadly does horrible things to people.

@OP - what "for corr" said to be honest. When you engage in a relationship with someone who has "baggage". You have to accept that it's a long term commitment. Also like "for corr" I am 36 and would love kids but sadly long term single. Get over it and enjoy that you have a family, get a job and contribute to society instead of coming on these forums and posting hatred filled posts that really don't make sense at best but at worst just invite flaming.

Treacle1983 · 17 March 2009 at 1:29AM

The kids should never be held to blame for the parents inability to have some sort of a civil relationship - putting on a condom or using protection is easy - if he got himself in the situation of having children - then he should support them.
If you as his new wife don't like supporting them - then maybe you shouldn't have married him as they are a part of him and always will be. When you marry someone you have to accept that.

charlie..._7 · 17 March 2009 at 9:11AM

to all the ignorant the ex from hell has severe P.A.S. and yes we do pay csa.

p.s. loopygirl has been reported before for stalking me and hurling abuse

i dont want to work

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